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Sep25

3 Mental Health Tips To Help Yourself Feel Better

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3 Mental Health Tips To Help Yourself Feel Better

Mental health is becoming more and more of a priority around the world, and for good reason. By looking after your mental health, you can make sure you have a long and happy life. As obvious as that is, it’s a lot harder to put into practice. Managing your mental health can often be tricky to put into practice, especially when you’ve been diagnosed with a specific condition. But, it’s not impossible. More than a few mental health tips can help with this. Not only should they make everything more manageable, but they could even improve your mental health more than you might’ve thought. Three of these are more than worth trying out because of the impact they can have:

Understand Your Triggers:

Most mental health conditions have triggers, especially when it comes to anxiety and panic disorders. These can vary from person to person, so take the time to understand your triggers. It puts you in a position to actively manage them. Once you have a proper understanding of your triggers, you can plan a way around them. If anxiety attacks are triggered by a specific location, for example, you can plan to avoid them. Less tangible triggers could need some work with a professional to mitigate going forward.

Proactively Manage Stress:

Speaking of triggers, stress can be one of the more notable of these. A stressful event could trigger an anxiety attack or something similar, so be as proactive as possible with your stress. You can use more than a few strategies for this, like yoga, deep breathing, or exercise. Then there’s the likes of medical cannabis and other options. You’ll usually need a prescription for these, but there’s no reason why they shouldn’t help. They’ve even been shown to help with the symptoms of anxiety and depression, too.

Should you not be able to get a prescription for medical cannabis, it’s okay! Dispensaries and online shopping options are available to make your purchase. You could consider buying Bulk Weed Canada (or your local area) to keep yourself well stocked. Dispensaries also carry edibles and vape cartridges if you prefer those methods better.

Be Kind:

Sometimes, helping with your mental health doesn’t have to focus on you. By being kind and helping to make the world a better place, you could end up having a great positive impact on your mental health. It’ll help more and more as time goes on. Even a simple act of helping a stranger pick up the groceries they dropped could help. If you want to see a significant impact, then regularly volunteering to help a charity could be an excellent way to do this. Find what you’re passionate about and see what volunteering options are available in your community to get started.

Looking after your mental health doesn’t always need to be as complicated as you think. With the right management skills, there’s no reason you shouldn’t improve your mental health and feel better in time. You’ll end up with a happier, better life before you know it!

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Dec19

Working With Mental Illness

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Working With Mental Illness

Hello!! It is no secret that your girl suffers from her fair share of mental illness. I have PTSD and depression and it can be exhausting to deal with. And, unfortunately, the adulting world doesn’t stand still despite difficult days that feature a “flare up”. I work hard to continue improving upon my situation, but I also use a few pro tips that I have cultivated over the years to make thing easier on myself. With these tools, my days feel more tolerable and I am able to achieve success in my jobs. Let’s discuss:

Have A Schedule:

In terms of my mental illness, my schedule means everything to me. My schedule brings me a lot of comfort because even if the day goes a little haywire, I still have a general idea of what is going to happen next. I try to go to bed, wake up, eat, and take breaks at the same time every day and not only do I keep things running like a fine tuned machine, but I feel less anxiety throughout the work day. Of course, on the weekend, I revel in not having anything to do. But, Monday through Friday – my schedule is god.

Eat Something:

Between the medication I’m on and the light buzz of butterflies that is constantly fluttering around in my stomach, my appetite is sometimes not there. I used to follow the rule of not eating if I’m not hungry, but that rule sucks because a few hours later I feel miserable and starving. If you aren’t feeling hungry at your normal mealtimes, try to have just a little something anyways. A light snack can help stimulate your appetite so you can work your way up to a proper meal. Your body and mind need the fuel from food, so eat!

Go Easy On Yourself:

The anxious mind might be telling you to work, work, work, and god help you if you stop: Even if you are feeling off. If you are having a bad day, be gentle with yourself. Give yourself permission to take breaks, self soothe, and return to the task at hand with a clearer head. There’s no gold star for pushing yourself through mental turmoil until you reach a breaking point. Listen to what your mind and body are telling you and respond accordingly. It can also be helpful to talk to yourself like you’re talking to a best friend. You would never tell your BFF that their need for a mental health break isn’t valid.

Avoid People Pleasing:

From one people pleaser to another, there comes a point when you have got to put yourself first. I have personally found that I tend to feel very resentful when I am catering to everyone other than me and that is a terrible way to feel. Part of looking out for you comes with saying “no” to what you don’t want to do – whatever reason that might be. You also have to be firm with your no because that establishes boundaries. This is not to say that you should just not help anyone ever. But, if you feel like you are spiraling and taking on way too much, you need to provide some leniency to your schedule.

Like anyone who is dealing with mental illness on top of all that adulting entails, I have my good and bad days. However, my days definitely feel more stable with the above advice!

Do you give yourself mental health breaks? How do you prioritize your mental health? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Oct7

Lil Red & The Weird Weekend

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Lil Red & The Weird Weekend

Hello everyone! Before we begin this post about some weekend weirdness, I will be placing a trigger warning on it for mental health, being in the ER, and blood. Now, let’s get to it:

It has been a hard past year and change in Lil Red’s world and this past week has been the absolute pits. Like, it was really bad and I was and still am pretty down in the dumps. I had a horribly stressful day last Thursday and spent the following days being super depressed. Friday came and went and Saturday felt like a bit of an upswing because Johnny and I spent the whole day together. We played lots of Diablo IV, ordered Domino’s for dinner, and settled down on the floor with the bunnies to play some Magic The Gathering.

As we schemed for our next turn, nature called and I went to the bathroom. When I sat on the can, I was startled to see that my sleep pants were soaked in blood. This was strange because Aunt Flo wasn’t scheduled to come for another four or so days. I wasn’t experiencing any pain or cramping and while it was weird, Johnny and I decided that we would visit the ER if I was still bleeding on Sunday. I was and it was off to Akron General that morning.

Thankfully, we were able to get right into a room once we arrived at the ER and that would have definitely not been the case if we went on Saturday night. The doctor came in and asked me questions like “Are you pregnant?” HARD NO. “Did you experience any physical trauma?” Nope. “Did something stressful or upsetting happen?” HARD YES. With that information, the doc decided to do blood work and a pelvic exam to see what was up with my down low area.

The pelvic exam was a pain in my pelvis, but we were relieved to hear that nothing was visibly wrong. So, we waited for the test results from the labs and swabs that were taken. As Johnny and I waited with bated breath, there was nothing to do but watch some TV. I selected the Lifetime channel and while Johnny initially grumbled, I am pleased to say that he was riveted by the time the movie ended. Lol, he is such a doll. ❤

Shortly after our Lifetime flick wrapped up, the doctor returned to tell us that my blood work and swabs were normal. She informed us that my hormones got out of whack from the stressful event and it triggered abnormal bleeding. Afterwards, I was able to change and Johnny and I could head home. As we drove back, we made a pit stop at Taco Bell and reminisced on how weird and unfortunate the situation was. My mind was hurting so much that it translated into a bodily reaction. I suppose we could have figured that out without a trip to the ER, but something like that had never happened to me before and it was scary.

I am happy to say that I am feeling better now. Not great, but slightly below average and that’s a big improvement. This is your Lil Red Friendly Reminder to take care of yourselves because, apparently, stress and depression can manifest itself in lots of crazy ways!

Have you ever been to the ER before? What happened? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Aug15

Going To Therapy

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Going To Therapy

Hello! This past year was the literal worst year of my life, hands down. It was terrifying, stressful, difficult beyond belief, and exhausting. Thankfully, things are on a massive upswing and I am SO happy for it. However, my mind still hasn’t quite caught up as I spent an entire year in a constant state of panic. After dragging my feet for a bit, I finally decided that it would do me a world of good to schedule an appointment with a therapist. I will be having my first session at the end of the month and I am really looking forward to it!

This is not going to be my first rodeo with therapy as I went to several in my youth, teens, and early twenties. Although, I think the upcoming is going to be the most beneficial appointments yet. I went through a lot last year and most of it is incredibly hard for me to talk about – even to Johnny and my besties. Being able to say what I need to a third party is very appealing to me and I am excited to learn new coping skills to help improve my mental health.

Therapy is such an important tool and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Rather, it’s something to be proud of because you are taking the proper steps for your well being. I am really proud of myself for scheduling an appointment in the first place and my only regret is that it isn’t sooner! If you are feeling wishy-washy about making an appointment for yourself, I say go for it! A sounding board could be just what you need.

This post wasn’t made for pats on the back for me, but encouragement for all of my readers and friends too. Mental health has always been a huge struggle for me and I feel empowered that I am taking charge of it. If I can do it, so can you! ❤

Have you benefited from seeing a therapist? Who is your favorite person to get advice from? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Jun12

Feeling Overwhelmed? What Has Helped Me

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Feeling Overwhelmed? What Has Helped Me

Hello! Saying that my life has been overwhelming for the past almost year is the understatement of the century. I have a loved one in poor health and have essentially become a duel citizen between Akron and the Cleveland Clinic. On top of that, I work three jobs, try my best to maintain some semblance of a social life (occasionally!), pepper in self care when I can, and keep my apartment in check. It is a lot!

At times, the stress was really getting to me and I was feeling so low. It took a decent amount of time for me to find healthy ways to ease my mind even a little bit and that has been most helpful. If you are in a highly stressful point in your life, these are the things that have been working for me and they might help you too. Let’s get to it:

Have a good cry:

There has always been a misconception that crying is a sign of weakness. However, I think it is such a sign of strength. To be able to release your tension and blubber (lol) and sob until you have nothing left can be so healing. I have always found comfort in a good cry and feel it even more so right now. Yes, I still feel sad after a cry sesh, but I also feel an ease in the out of control, overwhelming emotions. I honestly cry several times per week and for my situation, it is a healthy and powerful release.

Talk it out:

One of the biggest mistakes that I have made throughout my entire life was bottling emotions and letting things fester. This is a massive no no! I thought that I knew the people who I could turn to in my life for assistance and a vent session, but they have proven to be less than helpful. So, I had to find a new support system (outside of Johnny and immediate family).

This came in the form of one of my aunts and an uncle. Although I had been estranged from them for a significant amount of time, they have become one of my greatest assets during this hardship. I talk to them each at least once per week and it feels so good to say everything I need to someone who is ready and willing to hear it. They have really rallied around me and I take a lot of comfort in knowing that they are always just a phone call away. (And, yes, I will be attending therapy sessions as soon as things slow down and already have counselors in mind!)

Ask for help:

Like I said, I thought I knew who would be helpful in my immediate family and that just wasn’t the case. So, I simply refused to ask for help period and found a sense of pride in everything that I was undertaking. I still feel proud of myself for what I have done and continue to do for my family, but I have also gotten a lot better at asking for what I need. I was feeling really alone and, as it happens, I unknowingly did have a support system where all I needed to do was ask when I needed assistance. This has helped ease my burden so much mentally and it sounds like such an obvious thing to say to ask for help. But, I think we all forget this sometimes and it’s good to have a reminder.

Leisure time:

Once I return home from my day, I am simply done with my phone unless it’s absolutely necessary to pick up a call or answer a text. This has helped SO much and squashed the feelings of being constantly “on call”. Now, during my leisure time with Johnny, I can enjoy it more fully and that has been great. We have so much fun playing video games together, watching our favorite shows, playing with the bunnies, and just sitting on our balcony and talking. I miss Johnny so much when I am away during the day and not having my phone as an extra appendage makes our leisure time even better.

Sleep well:

It can be hard to get good sleep when everything seems to be falling apart, but it is so important to at least try. Even when I know that I won’t get to sleep early due to racing thoughts, I try to let my body rest as much as I can and veg out. I have also become much more forgiving of myself when I need extra sleep. I have always suffered from night terrors, but they have become AWFUL with the stress that I am under. After a rough night, I allow myself to sleep in a bit and I never fault myself for it because I can get through the day better rested.

All of the things above seem like no brainers, but it’s helpful to be reminded. And, because they are no brainers, they will be easy for you to implement too! Best of luck. ❤

What helps you in an overwhelming situation? Who is in your support system? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Jan27

Take The Compliment

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Take The Compliment

Hello! One thing that I have always struggled with is receiving compliments and I’m sure that I am not the only one who has similar sentiments. When I was at my lowest, I genuinely couldn’t understand why anyone would want to compliment me and all it did was make me paranoid and even more miserable. It’s hard accepting compliments when you don’t feel worthy of getting them in the first place! It’s also so easy to deflect a compliment and just turn it around to the other person, instead. IE: “You look great”. “No, you look great”.

For several years, I was never able to simply say “thank you” for a compliment and it took a lot of mental health work on my part to get to that point. After coming to terms with my own problems and gaining some self esteem, I realized that I have improved tenfold in my compliment accepting abilities. It actually didn’t really click until I saw these two pictures taken at Playhouse Square this past weekend:

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^^^ When snapping some pics before seeing Beetlejuice, someone told me they liked my outfit mid-pose and the second picture is of me being ecstatic about it!

As I was scrolling through photos of my night on the town, these two pictures really stuck out to me. As I sat and mused, I wondered what the second picture would have looked like if I was back to my depression days. Chances are, I wouldn’t have had a huge smile – rather, a look of confusion as if someone was trying to play a joke. Recognizing that and being able to see it so plainly in front of me made me feel proud of my own personal growths.

lifewithlilred played a big role in helping me muster up some confidence about myself in general and my appearance. Through OOTDs, I was able to develop my sense of style and writing about my issues in early posts assisted in sorting out my emotions and learning from them. And, while saying “thank you” for a compliment online isn’t the same as in real life, it was a great first start. Having people comment specifically on my page was a turning point and I was able to see the compliments for what they really were – something nice.

As I began testing my new skills in public, it began getting easier and easier to say “thank you” to the point where I didn’t even have to think about it anymore. I also loved how much more genuine it felt to give a person an actual compliment back instead of just replying with an Uno Reverse card lol.  It wasn’t until seeing the pictures above that I put some thought into it and saw what a major improvement has been made. 🙂

If you can relate to this post, my best advice is to Take The Compliment when you receive one. It might be really hard at first but just saying “thank you” is a small step in making some big changes!

What is something that you struggle with? Is it hard for you to accept compliments? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Feb2

The Coronavirus Pandemic & Mental Health

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The Coronavirus Pandemic & Mental Health

Mental health has always been a sensitive topic. It’s equally important to physical health, but many believe otherwise. Mental health problems include anxiety, depression, insomnia, and phobias of different kinds. Earlier, people ignored these problems, but now, we know better.

Due to strong efforts by many mental health experts, the world became aware of these conditions and saw their effect on children, teenagers, and adults alike. But the number of patients shot up drastically during the pandemic.

How did the pandemic effect mental health?

People lost their loved ones to Covid, which worsened mental health across the globe. Every day felt worse than the last and it felt impossible to visit our friends and family. Everybody was scared for their lives, and fear is not good for mental health.

Companies laid off people, which increased unemployment and caused worry. Lock downs shut down schools, children were forced to stay home, work from home became a norm, and people had to live in isolation, leading to many mental health problems.

The whole situation created immense pressure in the minds of adults and children. It’s hard to recover from the tragedy of this scale. The environment of uncertainty and danger created hopelessness that’s hard to manage. All of these problems trigger mental issues such as anxiety and depression.

Are young adults depressed?

Surveys have shown that young people are more prone to mental issues due to the pandemic. According to a study of healthcare students at the University of Jordan, it is found that students are suffering from high anxiety, which can also hinder their learning abilities.

Young adults have reported a lack of sleep and a rise in negative thoughts. They crave losing masks and attending events like they were supposed to at this age. The constant fear is always there. What if this never ends? The financial risks are also to note. Colleges might be closed, making it hard for students to study and get good grades to qualify for better courses or jobs. They lack the skills taught inside colleges to make them excel in their respective fields.

Many studies point towards a global mental health crisis due to the pandemic. Young adults are prone to mental health problems like stress and anxiety. Loneliness during the pandemic has made young adults susceptible to depression.

What to do now?

Now that things are looking up, we all must work hard to get our mental health on track. Find people who face similar issues as you and talk to them. Create groups where you and your peers can share their struggles during the pandemic and afterward. Form pacts to put in efforts towards the betterment of your mental health.

These include eating healthy and exercising regularly. You can even hire a trainer who has done an offline or online PT course so that he or she is equipped with the knowledge to help you work out. Having a personal trainer allows you to learn how to get the best out of each workout session. They also suggest diets and healthy habits curb negative thoughts and promote better sleep.

Mental health issues need treatment and professional care. You can always seek help at a mental health clinic or schedule an appointment with a counselor. Schools and colleges can hire therapists to take care of students and listen to their struggles. They can also conduct group sessions with professionals to solve problems on a larger scale.

There is also nothing wrong with using medications when necessary. Severe levels of depression need selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors or selective serotonin or norepinephrine inhibitors. Tetracyclic antidepressants are also recommended for depression along with bupropion. Organizations, schools, and colleges can have clinical psychologists prescribe medications.

It has always been important to take care of your mental health but even more so when living in these scary times. Be good to yourself and brighter days are ahead soon!

Dec5

What’s The Skinny?

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What’s The Skinny?

Hi! Before we begin, I am going to put a trigger warning on this post for references to weight and eating disorders.

My weight and self image has always been something that I struggled with. I actually haven’t really thought about it in a while until one comment sent my mind back into a tailspin. With the holiday season in full swing now, I thought that it was high time to give everyone a friendly reminder so let’s get to it:

Due to COVID, it has probably been ages since people have seen their friends and family for a holiday gathering. In that time of everyone staying in and turning to video chat to connect, people’s bodies could change. Whether weight was gained or lost during that time it is NEVER your place to say anything. Why ruin someone’s day with a completely unwarranted comment?

Weight is a sensitive subject for many people and it is also something that can fluctuate for a multitude of reasons. Of course, it’s not anyone’s business but the person themselves and here are a few of many reasons for weight change: Medication, eating disorders, an illness, depression, PCOS, and so on and so forth.

I, myself, am well aware that I have lost weight thanks to everyone and their brother telling me. Just this past week, one of my old skating coaches who I haven’t seen since the start of the pandemic made it a point to tell me that I “trimmed down”. Little did he know, my weight gain came from a time of serious depression and a binge eating disorder. He also has no idea that I am a recovering bulimic.

What this person thought was a compliment hurt me deeply and it took me back mentally to when I could barely stand to look in the mirror. So, yeah, “you lost weight” is a statement that is filled with negative connotations when the person didn’t volunteer information like that they dieted or went to the gym.

Commenting on someone’s weight after you haven’t seen them in a while also can make it seem like the person’s self worth is directly correlated with how much they weigh. A true compliment if you feel the urge to say something would be that “you look happy”. And, if you’re unsure: Say nothing at all.

Words have power and as a writer, I know this firsthand. What my old coach deemed innocent enough has still been swirling around in my head days later. In fact, it originally made me not even want to go back to that rink at all. That’s pretty sad considering how much I look forward to my time on the ice.

This holiday season, I urge all of you to keep things merry and bright and leave comments about weight off the table. Chances are, your words are going to linger well beyond the holiday gathering.

Can anyone relate to the above sentiments? What is your favorite compliment to give? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Aug5

Hang Ten

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Hang Ten

Hello! I have been in amazing spirits as of late thanks to a welcome change at work and have been all smiles every day when I return home. This past month has been such a game changer because not being in a bad mood once I get home has reignited my love for cooking and I have been having a lot of fun making dinner every night.

I feel like I have so much more energy now after my shift is over and I have been making plans with friends and family during the work week and weekend like crazy. This is also an awesome change of pace because, normally, I would be so drained that I would prefer spending time with my couch and television during the week. Then, the weekend would roll around and plans would seem exhausting rather than enjoyable. Needless to say, I was in a huge funk.

My new job has helped turn hanging out with people back into something that I look forward to and I am so thankful for that. I have been loving my weekly hang outs with my sister and niece most of all. This was a new addition to my work week since July and it is the definition of super happy fun times. My sister and I will alternate between who buys dinner and we’ll do a fun activity with her daughter. Last week, for example, we went swimming at the pool in my apartment community and had Taco Bell. It was perfect!

I have been taking so much more pleasure in going out and about and it feels so nice for it to not feel like a chore. I have been saying yes to every invitation I get which is a huge one eighty from maybe. This past weekend was an especially fun one as I went to a member’s night event at the Akron Zoo with my parents and niece. Johnny and I also had a fabulous date day on Saturday. We went to our favorite Mexican restaurant, El Meson. Then, we played video games and listened to music until one thirty in the morning. It was such a blast and we spent all of Sunday talking about how much of a blast it was lol.

As I look back on this past month of wonderful hang sessions and dinners, I can definitely see how depressed I was prior to making a change at work. I am so grateful for the opportunity that I was given because it, truly, has allowed my mental health to improve tenfold. I can’t wait for all of the good times that are ahead of me and my husband because I am now capable of enjoying them all to the highest capacity. ❤

Do you have any fun plans this summer? What is your favorite thing to do with your friends? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

May24

4 “Minor” Health Issues That Could Actually Be Major

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4 “Minor” Health Issues That Could Actually Be Major

We’re all a little guilty of ignoring new health symptoms, especially if they seem fairly minor in nature. We think that we can treat them ourselves or that they’ll go away on their own as long as we don’t do anything to make them worse, and most of the time that may be the case. However, there are numerous “minor” health issues that could actually be more serious than you think. Let’s take a look at them now:

Constipation:

Constipation can be uncomfortable, but it can also be embarrassing, which is why most of us try to deal with it ourselves by taking a little senna or adding more fiber to our diets. Most of the time that’s all that’s needed. But, if you are suffering from constipation that is both prolonged and painful, it could be another story altogether. Persistent constipation can lead to hemorrhoids and even confusion, especially in older people. It could also be a symptom of bowel cancer or an intestinal blockage, so you really should seek the advice of your doctor if you are experiencing constipation over a period of time. However, most bouts with constipation are temporary conditions that can be easily solved. They sometimes might result in hemorrhoids but that too can be treated with hemorrhoid cream.

Gum boils:

If you start to notice boils or sores on your gums, you may naturally just pop to the chemist for some ointment to soothe and cure the problem. Again, that may be all that’s needed, but if you get a lot of sores and boils or if they become infected, it could be a sign of something more serious like gum disease. You should make an appointment with a dental practice like Rivers Edge Dental as soon as possible. If it’s caught early enough, gum disease can be reversed, and if that is not possible, it can be managed so that it doesn’t get worse. If you notice any oral health issues, you should not wait to seek help.

Feeling down:

If you’re feeling blue, you’re uninterested in doing much, and you’re more tired than usual, it could be more than simply feeling down, you could be depressed. Depression is really serious and the sooner you seek help for it and get the right treatment, the more likely you are to get back to your old self and start feeling good again. Not only that, but depression can also be a symptom of several serious physical illnesses including M.E, and even cancer in some cases, so it really does need to be explored.

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Accidentally peeing:

You might think that accidentally peeing a little when you laugh or cough is no big deal in terms of your health, but it could actually be a sign that there is a problem with your pelvic floor, for example, and there are things you can do about that. So, there is no need to suffer in silence – go and see your doctor and see what can be recommended for you.

They may seem minor, but if you experience any of these symptoms, seeing a medical professional is a good idea.

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