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Just your average gal blogging an average blog!

Frugal Flowers

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Frugal Flowers

Hi everyone! One of the things that both my parents and myself love having around the house is fresh flowers. Whether they’re picked from our yard or selected at a farmer’s market or store, there is nothing like a huge bouquet sitting on the kitchen table to make you smile.

We never look to spend too much on satisfying our flower fascination, and my mom seriously took the cake with the last bouquet that she bought when it comes to saving money. She got four bunches of the flowers seen below for ONE DOLLAR at the store. You definitely can’t beat that!

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When it comes to the little odds and ends that make you smile, I always say:

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Whether it’s a dollar bouquet of flowers or that new color of lipstick that you’ve been dying for, a little pick me up certainly goes a long way!

How do you like to treat yoself? What is your favorite flower? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

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Fight These Common Causes Of Low Self Esteem

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Fight These Common Causes Of Low Self Esteem

One of the best things about life is being able to put ourselves first. Sure, it is always good to help others and ensure that our actions aren’t negatively affecting the people around us, but at the end of the day, we need to live our lives so that they benefit us and place us at number one. By making sure we do what is right for us and making decisions that will benefit us and our life, we can then start to truly love ourselves and feel good about our life choices.

However, loving ourselves isn’t always as easy as it should be. That’s because it can sometimes be easier to find reasons to hate ourselves and put ourselves down. More often than not, this causes low self-esteem and poor self-confidence. Low self-esteem can have many negative effects, especially on our mental health. If we suffer with it for long periods of time, it can transform into anxiety disorders.

If you are suffering from low self-esteem, then you will no doubt be busy trying to find a solution to all of these negative feelings. Most experts believe that the best way to deal with any self doubts is to find the cause of them and tackle them head on. So, this begs the question: what are the causes of low self-esteem? Here are some of the most common ones and what you can do about them.

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Toxic Relationships:

Bad relationships can be the cause of a lot of grief and heartache. Unfortunately, they can also often lead directly to feelings of self-doubt and low confidence. Not only that, though, but it can also cause issues with trust. When we enter into a relationship with someone, we put all of our trust into them. When they abuse this trust, we can often feel worthless and like our trust means nothing. However, that is very much not the case. The best thing that you can do in this situation, is to get out of the toxic relationship as soon as you can.

Even if you still love your partner, it is important that you remove yourself from the relationship so that your confidence and mental health isn’t damaged any further. Just keep on telling yourself that you deserve someone who truly loves you and won’t throw your trust back in your face. Don’t forget that this toxicity doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships. Friendships can often turn bad. If you think that your friends are bringing you down and causing you self-esteem problems, it could be a good idea to move on from them.

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A Poor Body Image:

Some people struggle with their body image, and they find that their poor body confidence ends up dragging down their self-confidence as a whole. If this sounds like your main problem, then it is worth trying to change how you see yourself and working on improving your body confidence. There are a few things that you can do which will help this. First of all, you should stop comparing your body to others. We are all made differently, so there are bound to be lots of different shapes out there. And there isn’t a perfect or ideal one – that is just something that the media came up with to try and sell more gossip magazines!

As well as not comparing yourself to others, you should also ignore what the media has to say about body shapes and sizes. They only print what they do to sell more copies of magazines and newspapers, and get more clicks on their sites! One other way that you can give your body image a boost is to surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and who will fill you with confidence. If you find that the people who you hang out with are trying to get you to change the way you look or the clothes you wear, they aren’t doing you any good and they certainly aren’t your friends.

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The Aging Process:

You aren’t born with self-confidence issues. Sometimes, they come and go throughout life. Some women find that even if they were super confident throughout their twenties and thirties, once they hit middle age, they lose all of their self-esteem. And that is largely due to the aging process. No one wants to get older. Not only that, but many people find it hard to deal with the physical changes that their body undergoes as they start to grow old. So, there’s no wonder that many people try to hide the tell-tale signs of aging, such as under eye lines and crow’s feet. If you find that you are feeling down about getting old, you might find that changing your mindset to a more positive one really helps improve your feelings and helps you come to terms with aging.

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Feeling Guilty:

We all make mistakes as we go through life, but some of those mistakes seem to haunt us for longer than others. Having this guilt hang around our heads constantly can get us down and will eventually lead to very poor self-esteem. If at all possible, you need to shake away the guilt. One way around these negative feelings is to try and think of all of the positive things that came from making these mistakes. For instance, perhaps a particular mistake actually opened up some doors for you in your life and were able to bring you more opportunities. Plus, it is important to remember that mistakes can be learned from and help you grow and develop as a better person. I’m sure that some good came from your mistakes. Focus on this positivity and forget about the guilty feelings!

 

Setting Goals That Are Too Big:

Another problem that most people have to deal with is a self-imposed one. The majority of us set ourselves targets and goals in life to stay as productive and motivated as possible. Then, when we achieve them, we can feel proud and successful. However, it is very important that when you do think about our life goals and targets, that they aren’t too big and unachievable. Otherwise, they will be impossible for you to reach, and you will end up extremely frustrated and unfulfilled in the process.

As a result, you may end up thinking that you are not really good enough. Eventually, those thoughts will lead to poor self-confidence and self-esteem. So, the best way to tackle this is to prevent these thoughts in the first place. Rather than setting yourself goals that are exceptionally high, you should consider reducing them to make them more achievable. That way, you can feel good when you work towards them rather than beating yourself up every time you fail.

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Traumatic Experiences:

Sometimes people go through traumatic life experiences and, even though they are able to make a full recovery, they are often left plagued by low self-esteem. The best way around this is to sign up for some therapy sessions. During each session, you will be able to speak to a therapist about your ordeal, and they will help you come to terms with any PTSD or resulting self-confidence issues.

Living life with low self esteem is no way to live life. Begin to tackle your issues and watch yourself blossom!

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Get To Know Me Tag

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Get To Know Me Tag

Helloooo! Similarly to the Beauty Scenario Tag that I just did, I found the Get To Know Me Tag while I was browsing through my WordPress newsfeed. I landed upon Petya’s page at BeautyWithP, where she had completed the post. It looked like fun and, because FOMO, I wanted in. Check it out and get to know some more factoids about your favorite Lil Red:

1. What’s your full name? Sarah Renee Mushenheim (The most basic name ever lol)
2. What does your name mean? Sarah means “princess” and Renee means “reborn” or “born again”. And Mushenheim means whatever you want it to mean.
3. Are you named after anyone? Since Renee is a derivative of Irene, my middle name was for my Auntie Irene.
4. What’s your zodiac sign? Gemini
5. Do you believe in astrology? Yep!
6. What do you like about yourself? I’m sometimes funny and I’m smart.
7. What do you dislike about yourself? I get really angry sometimes and say things I don’t mean.
8. When was the last time you cried? A couple of days ago.
9. If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself? Sure!
10. Do you use sarcasm a lot? It’s one of my many talents.
11. What’s the first thing you notice about people? Their teeth.
12. What is your eye color? Hazel.
13. Scary movie or happy endings? Scary movies all day every day.
14. Favorite smells? Freshly cut grass and bread baking.
15. Do you have any special talents? I figure skated competitively for about ten years.
16. Where were you born? Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
17. What are your hobbies? Shopping, reading, watching movies, learning new languages.
18. Do you have any pets? Two beautiful rescue pups.
19. Do you have any siblings? Yes, two older brothers and an older sister.
20. How tall are you? 5’1 1/4″ (The quarter counts!)
21. How many countries have you visited? Canada when I was really little.
22. What is your favorite drink? Coffee, Diet Coke, and moscato – ayyyy.
23. Animal? All of them.
24. Perfume? Anything apple or vanilla.
25. Book? The Little Prince and the Sandman comic book series.
26. What sports do you play/Have you played? Figure skating!
27. Who are some of your favorite YouTubers? I don’t have any.
28. Who is your favorite musician? Marilyn Manson and Jack White.
29. Who is your favorite person in the world? Too many to count!
30. Favorite food? Anything vegetarian friendly. I love Italian, Mexican, Indian, and Thai food.
31. What’s your favorite time of the day? Early afternoon.
32. What’s your favorite quote? I don’t really have any.
33. Are you more likely to avoid conflict or engage it head-on? Avoid like the plague, lol.
34. Are you a good cook? People tell me that I am, so I would say yes!
35. If you could eliminate one weakness or limitation in your life, what would it be? My handful of mental health issues.
36. Tell us one of your bad habits! Smoking and drinking a lot of coffee.
37. Do you have any tattoos? Yep, one on my side, three on my arms, and four on my back. I can’t wait to get more!
38. What’s the thing you can’t leave the house without? My phone, my iPod for driving tunes, and my GPS if I’m going somewhere unfamiliar.
39. Do you believe ignorance is bliss? Of course.
40. What’s your biggest fear? Definitely death of a loved one.
41. Do you have any phobias? Not that I know of!
42. Have you ever met any celebrities? I met Hawthorne Heights back in my teens, and I’ve met Sasha Cohen and Todd Eldridge which was cool when I was skating.

I am so happy to have came across BeautyWithP so that I could complete another fun questionnaire! Thanks, girl! How would you answer some of the above questions? Do you have any questions for me? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Garden Gnome Gift

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Garden Gnome Gift

Howdy! For my mom’s birthday, my sister, Kristen, treated her with a gift card to All Fired Up, which is a paint your own pottery place. It was such a sweet and thoughtful gift and they went together to create some masterpieces a few weeks ago. During that time, it was also my dad’s birthday, and my mom decided to make him a present at All Fired Up to celebrate. It was so cute I could hardly stand it and my mom did much better than we all anticipated at painting the prezzie. Take a look:

As all of you know, my dad is an avid gardener. Not only that, but he loves garden decor, as well. Birdhouses, bird baths, bird feeders, decorative pots, garden gnomes – you name it! It makes for such an eclectic and beautiful space in our backyard and I always look forward to when everything begins to grow in the spring to fully showcase his craft.

Sweet JANE, knows her hubby well enough to know that he would love to have a new gnome to add to his collection and used her birthday gift to hand make him a birthday gift. Like I said, it was so cute I could hardly stand it. Unfortunately, the weather outside is so crummy that CHARLES doesn’t want to take the gnome out for a little jaunt just yet. So, a few mornings ago, I found the cheeky little guy poking out from one of my dad’s extra flower pots for safe keeping. Freaking adorable!

My mom used a gift to make a gift and not only did it turn out wonderfully, but it also inspired her to take a pottery class with Kristen. Talk about a gift that keeps on giving!

Who else enjoys painting or creating pottery? What do you use to decorate your garden? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Learn To Live For Today And Plan For Tomorrow

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Learn To Live For Today And Plan For Tomorrow

We all walk a fine line with our finances. We don’t want to spend our time doing nothing, we want to enjoy ourselves and experience life’s little luxuries from trips away to fun purchases. If you constantly favor saving over spending, you’re going to have a pretty boring life. At the same time, though, we have to prepare for tomorrow. We need to think about making sure that we are going to be financially secure ten days, ten months, or even ten years from now.

It seems that we are under constant pressure to plan for tomorrow. Just look at the housing market. As soon as you hit your twenties, there will be people around you, telling you to buy a home. A home gives you some form of financial security sure, but it also ties down your finances. Now, for years, you’ll need to fit in mortgage repayments into your budget. These can be incredibly expensive and will make paying for those luxuries that you love just that little bit harder. As such, it might be wise to not buy a home until you have the income where you can easily cover this cost and still live a full life. Or, simply prepare to accept the fact that, at least for a short time, you won’t be able to afford those fancy trips or that new car. You can learn more about whether you can afford to buy property on www.cnbc.com.

The lesson here, is that it’s a balancing act. It’s about balancing what you need with what you want. It’s about balancing what you must spend with what you’d love to purchase. It’s about planning for the future while still enjoying the present so that one day you’ll be able to look back at the past with no regrets. So, let’s explore some of the ways you can do this, and we can start by thinking about budgeting:

How Should You Budget?

Budgeting is actually easier than a lot of people realize. You need to start by working out exactly what you make per month. This is the total amount you have to play with, and it should include all of your incomes. So, if you have a side hustle, make sure that this is counted. Unless you would rather see that as extra money.

Then, subtract all of the costs that you are aware of. This includes bills, rent, mortgage repayments as well as an average food cost. So, you might budget fifty a week or more for food. Now, the amount you have left should be halved. Half of this must go into savings. Set yourself a goal to save each month and put this as a direct debit on your account. Just like a tax, it will leave your account at the end of each month. This cuts out the choice of hanging onto it and spending it. Congratulations, you’ve just made a smart choice on how to prepare for your future.

The other money you can spend however you like. Put it towards your holiday, use it for presents or nights out. It’s your choice, but you have to remember that this is all you have to spend. Now immediately, you might notice a problem. There isn’t actually that much to spend is there?

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Budgeting is key!

Play With The Numbers:

This is where you need to start cutting costs on things that you need so you can afford things you want. An example of this would be something like energy bills. We all have to pay energy bills, but they should be more manageable if you can go a little more green. Make changes to your home to save energy, and you’ll have a little extra to spend each month. It won’t be much, but it will make a difference. Since you have already set a target, add that to your spending budget for now.

You can also think about boosting your income. What you’re looking for here is a passive income. There’s no point in taking on a second income to enjoy your spare time if you’re going to end up with no time to spare. There are various options for passive incomes from the stock market to property. Research a few and find out which one will benefit you and suit you the most. If you’re good with numbers, you might want to consider forex trading, which is basically investing in the value of different currencies. By predicting patterns, you can make a fortune in this market without even trying.

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Preparing For Disaster:

Of course, your budget is based on your income. Any hit to your income will kill both your spending budget and your savings. Worse still, it might mean that you have to use your savings to cover expenses that you can no longer afford. You can see how this would be an issue. Suddenly, you don’t have any money in your account for the future. This is where great budgeting advice that is found on www.lifehacker.com comes in handy. But how do you handle this situation?

You have to prepare for any disaster that can be foreseen. You’re probably thinking, wait a minute – unexpected costs can’t be foreseen. That’s why they’re unexpected. It’s not true. You might not expect to develop a disability, but you can forsee that it’s a possibility so you should plan for it. Anyone could develop a disability. You might be involved in a car accident, you could fall at work, or it may even develop due to biological causes. Since it could happen, you should plan for it. According to www.insurestat.com, doctors should definitely do this because anyone working in the medical field who develops a disability will probably be unable to work. As such, they should protect their income. You can protect your income with disability insurance and guarantee that you are always on roughly the same level of pay. Regardless of whether you can work or not.

This isn’t the only disaster you need to prepare for. You have to consider the worst-case scenarios that could impact your finances. Medical bills, for instance, are one of the greatest causes of debt in the USA today. You can plan for this by buying into the right health coverage plan that provides everything you might need.

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Insurance is a must.

Don’t Always Wait For Tomorrow:

Tomorrow doesn’t always come. Or rather, you can miss too many tomorrow’s and before you know it you’ve run out of time to do what you want. This may sound morbid, but you could die tomorrow. So, you might constantly be putting off that holiday to a point where you can easily afford it and when you’ll still have savings. But what if that day never comes? Most people do live their lives on an average, basic income. They never reach that 100K a year paycheck, and yes you can wait until retirement and use your 401K. But, after you’ve retired, you might not have the energy or the health to do everything you wanted. Don’t let life pass you by while you wait around for the right moment to do something.

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Live For What You Love:

Finally, you need to make sure that you’re not spending your hard earned money on things that you don’t want and that you don’t need. This happens all of the time. We’ve already mentioned one example, and that’s property. Buying a home can be right for some people. But, if you are still moving around and haven’t settled, it’s just a waste of money and adds plenty of stress to your life that you don’t need. Instead, you should continue to rent. While it might be dead money, it can be far cheaper than purchasing a home that you may never pay off.

Ultimately, you have to live your life in a way that makes sense for you and financial purchases should be part of that decision. Some people spend their whole life traveling around the world, work by freelancing, and never once think about settling down into a comfortable routine. This site, www.justonewayticket.com, has some great advice on spending your life traveling. Could this be the lifestyle of your dreams? Perhaps! And as long as you have a plan for tomorrow, you can live however you want to today.

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Why Is Building A Strong Brand Important?

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Why Is Building A Strong Brand Important?

When it comes to branding, there are quite a few reasons why it makes sense to devote resources toward a strong portrayal of operations. Good branding will make your business more profitable, collaterally remunerating you for the cost of implementation. The following are five considerable points that can help put this reality into perspective:

  • Reputation Expansion
  • Investment
  • Conversion
  • Employee Satisfaction
  • Advertisement Stimulation

Reputation Expansion Is Facilitated Via Brand:

When you’ve got a strong brand, that’s going to give you a strong reputation. Think of common brands that you’re familiar with presently. Starbucks. McDonald’s. Nike. Apple. Windows. Google. Amazon. Each of these companies has a solid brand with recognizable logos, slogans, marketing, and products. They have solid reputations.

Your brand can be a “name-brand”, or a “household name” in terms of reputation with the right marketing, PR, and service delivery over time. Design a solid brand that is recognizable, likable, and dependable. This is one of the best ways to build reliable reputation.

A Good Brand Is More Likely To Be Invested In:

Investors are trying to grow their money. If your brand is fledgling and unknown, that doesn’t inspire confidence. You’re a lot less likely to acquire the investment you desire. One solid investor can totally overcome the cost of appropriate branding, so allocate resources toward the deliberate establishment of your brand.

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Strong Brands Convert More New Customers:

When you’re a highly visible, reputed, strong brand with investors, you’re likely to convert more new customers. They will have heard about your brand beforehand, and sometimes will simply be visiting you to see if what they’ve heard is true. A strong brand acts in a marketing capacity.

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Employees Are More Satisfied With A Trusted Brand:

When you’ve got a solid brand, those working for your company are more likely to have a respectful attitude, and consider themselves lucky to be a part of your enterprise. A solid brand actually inspires employees to deliver better work, and to themselves be more dependable. A weak brand is much less likely to inspire that kind of confidence.

Branding Stimulates Advertising:

The right kind of brand will act like an advertisement lightning rod, if you will. This is because successful branding has a definite PR/marketing element to it. You’ve got to attend social events, you’ve got to design materials with your logo and slogan prominently portrayed thereon, and you’ve got to push yourself across the worldwide web.

There are a great deal of diverse techniques characterizing today’s marketing world, and though the web, and particularly social media, is one of the best ways to advertise. However, there’s still a lot to be said for things like merchandise, baubles, trinkets; you get the idea.

If you’ve got your logo and slogan printed on a variety of free merchandise, this can organically help to spread your brand. Certainly you want to build your brand’s online reputation as securely as you build its non-digital persona; but there are things worth doing which affect the real world, and can also be quite lucrative for your business.

There are more options than you might expect out there in the mainstream, and you can even acquire branded marketing goods from non-traditional providers — the Teehive prints your logo on tablecloths, for example; as the site says: “Whether you have a design ready, an idea in mind, or have absolutely no clue what you are envisioning for your custom merchandise[,] our expert designers are here to help you every step of the way.”

A Strong Brand:

The stronger your brand, the more visible it will be. Provided your operation runs with the requisite integrity, professionalism, and output, you’re likely to see your brand attain the strength it needs to survive in a complex, transitioning, unpredictable business environment.

Beauty Scenario Tag

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Beauty Scenario Tag

Hey everyone and happy Hump Day! While browsing through my WordPress beauty feed, I noticed a Beauty Scenario Tag post by Fridoline and it looked like so much fun that I had to join in! Here we go:

You have to get rid of all your foundations and you can only keep one high end and one drugstore, which do you keep?

Much to everyone’s shock when I tell them this, I don’t wear any type of foundation or concealer products. I consider myself very lucky and my pasty pale complexion is one of my favorite things about myself.

You go for an interview and the lady interviewing you has lipstick on her teeth. Do you approach the subject or ignore it completely?

Oh wow… I have no idea how I would handle this. I actually don’t think that I would say anything. If a total stranger told me that I had lipstick or food in my teeth, I would feel so embarrassed. I think that it would be better if she found out herself or if a coworker who she knows better pointed it out. But, that’s just me.

You’re not feeling yourself and need a pick me up. Which lipstick do you put on to make yourself feel beautiful?

NYX’s Pure Red Matte Lipstick, of course. It’s my go to shade and is fifty percent of the reason why my nickname is Lil Red. (The other half being my red hair, obvs lol.)

You go back in time for a day to your teenage years, how would you do your hair and makeup differently?

When I was a teenager, I actually didn’t wear a lot of makeup. Maybe if I did, I would be better at applying it now! Ha. But, I had long hair as a teen and I wish that I dyed it red, because I think that it would have been so pretty. I’d love to see what it would have looked like, because it is so difficult for me to grow my hair out now.

You ask your hairdresser for a shoulder length Pixie Lott hair cut, but they hear wrong and give you a pixie cut.

Do you:

A) Smile, say thank you, leave and call your mom hysterical.

B) Cry in the chair and things get awkward.

C) Complain to the manager and demand a refund.

OR D) So, I had no idea who Pixie Lott is and I had to Google her. Her hair is very pretty, but it’s not me at all AND I look great in a pixie cut (#humblebrag) so I don’t think that I would have been too upset.

HOWEVER, since that’s not an option, I would probably go with C. I would be very nice about it and say “this is not what I wanted at all and I don’t think that I should have to pay for it”. At the end of the day, it’s your hair that got messed up, so paying for someone’s mistake just adds to the suckery of it.

Your friend surprises you with a 4 day city break and you have 1 hour to pack. Which ‘do it all’ palette do you pack in your makeup bag?

I don’t own any palettes aside from my Elf Nude Rose Gold one, so I guess that’s the one that I would be bringing, lol.

Your house has been robbed, don’t worry everyone is safe, but your beauty stash has been raided. What’s the product you really hope is safe?

Since 99% of my makeup is drugstore brand, besides for my Better Than Sex mascara, I wouldn’t be too disappointed about anything. But, I would be kind of pissed if the Tarte Lip Paint sample that I got for my birthday from Sephora got messed with because it’s an exclusive shade for the Beauty Insider members and I freaking love it.

Your friend borrows your makeup and returns it in awful condition.

Do you:

A) Just pretend you haven’t noticed.

B) Ask them to repurchase it.

C) Secretly do the same to something of theirs.

Can option D be “none of the above”? Lol, I’m not really keen on letting anyone but me use my makeup.

Thanks again to Fridoline for this fun tag! It was a hoot. How would you answer some of these questions? What is your holy grail beauty item? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah