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Lil Red For The Little Mermaid!

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Lil Red For The Little Mermaid!

Helloooo! I swear, my newsfeed on THE BOOK has been filled with bullshit on the casting for the Little Mermaid and it is the most annoying thing on planet Earth. So, when I busted out my new Little Mermaid themed bikini for the first time this summer, I knew that I had to create a joke post about me being cast as Ariel. I mean, come on, I have the red hair which should compensate for my singing voice that sounds like a dying cat! 🤣

And Ariel did have a buttload of tattoos and piercings right… or am I thinking of a different movie?

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^^^ The resemblance is uncanny! 😀

But, in all seriousness, this post isn’t about my cheeky sense of humor or a casting decision that I am 150% for. This is about bikini body positivity because, let me tell you, I have not felt confident in a bikini in a very long time. I took a client to one of our local Metro Park lakes this past Monday and saying that I was nervous to be in public in my Little Mermaid number is the understatement of the century.

I have a very love/hate relationship with my body, especially considering that I struggled with an eating disorder for a long time. And, I still have a hard time grasping that my body at twenty-five is going to be different than what my body was at sixteen. Do I love that I have bigger breasts than what I would like? No. How about the fact that I can’t seem to get rid of my little tummy no matter how healthy I eat or how often I figure skate? Absolutely not.

But, then, I remember that I love my legs and badonk that are super toned and muscular from over a decade of dedication to a sport. I love my piercings and tattoos that make me happy whenever I look at them. And, it could always be worse lol!

Even with those friendly reminders, though, I was still anxious for the grand reveal of my towel coming off. But, my client wanted to swim and that’s what was going to happen that day. So, I took a deep breath, dropped the towel, and began to walk towards the water. That’s when something amazing happened…

The first person who saw me told me that I looked awesome and little did she know, that changed my attitude for the entire lake outing. What felt like a literal blanket of insecurities for my first time in a bikini in years was lifted instantly by a stranger’s kind words and I felt good… better yet, I felt confident.

And, because I felt so happy and okay with myself in my own skin, I wanted to share the gift that the guardian angel stranger shared with me. If I saw a bikini that I thought was darling or if one of my fellow ladies was working it, trust and believe I let them know. And, watching their faces light up instantly was the best thing.

No matter what their body type is, I don’t know many girls who are thrilled about being in bathing suits. That’s why it was important to me to offer the same kindness to others that my stranger did for me. Part of being a Disney princess is having confidence and, in my Ariel inspired suit, I finally felt that way. The least I could do was help other people feel that, too.

What makes you feel confident? How do you help others to feel that way? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

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Areas Of Your Life You Can Always Work On Improving

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Areas Of Your Life You Can Always Work On Improving

If you are keen to try and live the very best life you can, there are many things that you might want to consider in order to make sure that you do just that. In essence, you need to think about improving a number of areas of your life all at once, or at least in order, so that you can know that you are doing everything in your power to make that success much more likely. You can start with some of the following:

Your Career:

For many people, their career is just about the most important thing in their life. Chances are, it is the part of your life that you put the most effort into and spend the most time on, so you want to know that you are doing it right. Most of us would like to be at a higher stage in our careers at all times, as that is the nature of it. And while this is a noble thing to try and aim for, you can be sure that there is also much to be gained from trying to enjoy where you are presently, and how far you have already come, as well as trying to advance further. Finding the balance between these two things is likely to be difficult, but it’s something that you should try for if you want to be as happy with your career as you can be.

If you want to advance your career, then there are a number of ways in which you can do so. You will always find that it is beneficial to go back to school and get some higher education. Being more educated will mean that you are more qualified for higher roles and promotions, and that you can get the job you want – if it is something that requires a specific qualification first. One of the most important decisions here is what course to take, which depends on what you are hoping to do. It might be that you are thinking of getting into nursing, in which case a nursing degree from Regis College could be the way to go. Or you might want to become a business manager, and feel that you could benefit from a degree in business management. Whatever you do, make sure that you get an appropriate qualification, and that you trust the institution you are getting it from.

Doing that will ensure that you improve your career in the long run and ultimately earn more money, but it will also mean that you gain more knowledge, which is also a huge benefit in your life. There are other ways to boost your career too, and you might want to think about asking for a raise if you are want to improve the financial side of things. That can be frightening to many people, but it is the kind of thing that you are going to have to do if you want to get the results. Of course, you will find it a lot easier to ask for a raise if you have a great deal of personal confidence – something else that you might want to work on in your life.

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Confidence:

Most of us probably feel that we could do with a little more confidence in our lives. If you want to try and boost your own confidence levels, there are many ways in which you can do so. Sometimes the only big difference you need to make is a basic change of your mentality. It might be that you assume that you are not a confident person, and that you just can’t be more confident. But the fact is that it is not fixed, and any of us can build as much confidence as we like over a period of time if we want to.

In general, the one basic way that you boost your confidence is by stepping outside of your comfort zone. This process of constantly living at your edge is something that will make an enormous difference over time, and you should find that you are able to see some great improvements in your confidence by living this way. You can also think about trying other short-term solutions for when you just need to feel more confident in the moment. For instance, you could try a power pose: this is where you stand with legs at hip width, arms on your hips, head up, and smile. It is proven that doing this for merely a few minutes can make you feel much more confident, and the people around you will notice too.

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Relationships:

Just as confidence building is all about working on the relationship with yourself, so too you will find that it is a good idea to be working on your relationships with other people. The better and happier your relationships with other people are, the more likely it is that you will lead a happy and contented life, and that you will have many great times ahead of you. So what can you do to ensure that you are working on your relationships in a way that will make a positive impact?

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Life is all about going with the flow and working to climb the ladder in all aspects of your life. Use the tips above to help get you going in a more positive direction!

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What You Should Know About Traumatic Brain Injury

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What You Should Know About Traumatic Brain Injury

A traumatic brain injury (TBI) could be a result of an impact blow, jolt, or bump to the head or serious head injury that interferes with brain’s normal functions. However, not all jolts or blows to the head will cause TBI. A TBI can be mild to severe, with mild TBI characterized as a fleeting change in consciousness or mental state, and severe TBI characterized as a prolonged period of amnesia or unconsciousness following the injury. A traumatic brain injury can likewise cause many different psychological disturbances that range from minor disturbances to severe emotional and intellectual impairments such as psychosis, mood disorders, behavioral issues, anxiety disorder, and depression.

How a Traumatic Brain Injury Impacts Your Mood:

Depending on the severity of your injury, it could change how you express and/or feel emotions. In some cases, affected individuals might feel their emotions intensely and very swiftly, or feel like riding a rollercoaster of emotions. This is known as emotional liability. The main problem with this, is that their emotional responses are usually unprovoked and come very suddenly, which could be extremely confusing for other people who might be thinking that they did or said something to offend or distraught the affected individual.

Depression, Anxiety, and Apathy from Traumatic Brain Injury:

Studies have shown that a previous history of psychiatric disorders and poor level of functioning prior to a TBI are significant depression risk factors. It is, however, crucial to note that depression following a TBI isn’t the same as daily, standard depression because the change in mood is due to an actual natural alteration in the brain because of the TBI.

About 10% of those who have suffered a TBI develop apathy, and 60% of them develop both depression and apathy. Apathy is marked by a lack of motivation, disengagement, disinterest, and inertia. Additionally, people with TBI usually develop anxiety and feel irrational and persistent fearfulness, tension, and worry that, in some cases, are due to reduced processing speed and other cognitive deficits post-injury.

The Need for Comprehensive and Multifaceted Treatment:

Treating personality and mood changes following a TBI is a complex undertaking. It must include many different rehabilitative interventions and drug therapy. Preferably and, if applicable, acute and intense rehab must be started on the exact day of the injury itself, especially in cases where severe TBI is suspected. Rehabilitation should also be multifaceted. You need to undergo a comprehensive neuropsychological assessment so that the doctor can properly evaluate any emotional and cognitive changes. This assessment will pinpoint specific strengths and weaknesses that will serve as a baseline following your TBI.

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Getting Help for Filing a Personal Injury Claim:

As you can see from above, treatment for a traumatic brain injury can be very costly. With that said, if another individual or entity has caused your TBI, try to document the injury’s effects and maintain all medical records pertaining to your injury. You should also seek help from a brain injury lawyer in Los Angeles to discuss your situation and determine if a lawsuit or a settlement is best.

The Digital Era’s Effect On Our Insecurities

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The Digital Era’s Effect On Our Insecurities

It’s hard to exist in a world with access to social media ‘round the clock. Instead of seeing real people, you see idealized versions of beauty and celebrities with unattainable airbrushed looks. Try as we might, natural beauty is not natural enough when they need to be on the cover of magazines. In this digital era, it seems like everyone’s insecurities are magnified. If all of the constant focus on beauty is making you feel insecure, here are some tips that you can do to start loving yourself a little more:

Hair Care:

Your hair is your crowning glory, they say. It makes sense that people want to care for their locks because of how much it affects their appearance. However, no matter how shiny you think your hair already is, when you see hair product advertisements, suddenly your hair is not smooth enough, colored evenly enough, or straightened sufficiently. Ads and commercials get some editing help, of course, but the message is already evident. You need to change your hair products, perhaps consider switching to herbal hair care, and love your curls rather than killing them with heat from styling every day. All of these changes you’re considering will be helpful because they are overall good for your hair and will show positive results over time.

Body Image:

Hair is just one part of the body, and it can already give you so much insecurity. What more if you don’t have the “perfect” body? Lots of people have uncertainties stemming from a negative body image, and this is brought on by the lack of love for different body types in the beauty industry. Even now that there is room for plus size models, we still see them conforming to the hour-glass shape that the industry has deemed ideal. Thankfully, some big names in the industry are choosing to release their unedited photos to show their fans that, though it might look like it in magazines, they do not have a perfect body. Everyone’s body is different and beautiful, and the more that this is normalized, the better for body positivity movements.

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Talent:

When you look at celebrities, they always seem to be oozing with talent. They have a good singing voice and can dance, too. They also look good in everything they do. Some are good enough to be chefs and others can speak several languages. When you compare your skills with them, you think you fall short. The thing is, you should not be comparing yourself with another person, be they a celebrity or not. Each person has different skills, and instead of telling yourself you’re not good enough, you should focus on self-improvement. Celebrities train rigorously to learn what they need for their craft; you should also try to improve your skills and not knock yourself if others do it better. They all started as beginners, too.

The digital age has given us some of the most advanced features and gadgets we could have asked for. However, it also highlights some of our biggest insecurities. It’s up to you to take that power away from them by loving yourself!

Doing Me For Me

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Doing Me For Me

Hiii everyone! This past month, I have made some major changes when it comes to work and my life in general and I honestly have never been happier. For the past couple of years, my life has felt like the epitome of “all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”. Not to say that I don’t love my job, because it is simply the best. But, I was working so much to the point that my social life or even just time for me was essentially nonexistent.

I was starting to become really bitter, especially from seeing all of my friends doing such cool stuff all over social media while my days off on the weekend were spent recouping from a long work week. I felt envious of my friends or people I don’t even know on my newsfeed living their best life while I felt like I was merely working my way through mine week after week.

I was fed up and so I made the decision to change things. I made the difficult choice to drop one of my clients and I also rearranged my schedule to give myself some evenings off. And, within one week, I felt a major difference in my mental health. For once, I was enjoying having friends over for drinks at my apartment, going out, and running errands that I had saved for the weekend. And, my boyfriend and I get more regular times to see each other, which is the best!

I spent a majority of twenty-three and twenty-four building my businesses. And, now that both of them are totally stable, I am fortunate enough to cut back on my hours a bit. I feel proud of myself that I took a major stand to start improving my mental health and being able to feel like a twenty-four year old with a social life is what I desperately needed. It was a big step and I could have easily kept running myself into the ground but, doing me for me needed to happen and my life feels infinitely better for it.

So, this post is a friendly reminder for all of you to take the steps to do you for you. Carve out time to give yourself a break, cut out negativity, and do what you have to do to live your best life. ❤

How do you do you for you? What can you do to improve your life today? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

“Bouncing Back” After A Personal Difficulty

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“Bouncing Back” After A Personal Difficulty

Suffering any setback in life can result in an influx of negative emotion. While it’s easy to say that you need a positive mindset in which to cope with these issues, it’s never that straightforward in practice. Regardless of what’s happened in life, be it a personal tragedy or a string of bad luck, there appear to be a few constants that can help us keep on:

Resilience (A Skill You Can Improve On):

Throughout personal difficulties, it can feel far easier for you to bury your head in the sand. People will tell you that you need to keep going on, as life does inevitably go on. The one thing we can learn through these difficult aspects in life is some form of coping strategy. But, when resilience is brought up, it can feel like it’s a thing that either we have or we don’t. And, depending on our reaction to the problem, it can highlight what level our resilience is really at. But resilience is one of those great skills in life that we can fine tune. The way we do it is by going through difficult circumstances and, gradually, as our comfort zone increases, we develop tolerance to these situations.

Self-Care Is Important:

When we suffer a setback, a personal problem, or we’re going through a really horrible time, we can neglect self-care. But, in even the most basic of ways, self-care can do wonders for ourselves. Fueling ourselves with the right foods and staying away from toxic friendships are two things that help to nurture our body and our mind. You know what is good for you because you will either feel good or you will feel bad. But what we struggle with these days is actually tuning into this and using the knowledge to help turn the situation around.

…So Is Getting Help When Necessary:

Help is one of those things that we can either feel too proud to ask for or we think it’s a sign that we are weak. Getting help comes in many different forms. Sometimes it’s professional ones, which makes life easier after a common problem like a house fire, where services like SERVPRO help with the cleanup of a property. Help is something that can make life easier. If you’ve done all of the hard work and you need a bit of help getting back on your feet, either through professional help or by just leaning on someone a little bit more than usual, why shouldn’t you?

Regardless of the difficulty, there’s an abundance of services to help people in their hour of need. And when it becomes too much, it’s these people that we will turn to. You only have to look at organizations like The Samaritans to see that there are people out there that can’t turn to their loved ones for help, but need an impartial listener, either to vent or for someone to actually help before things get out of hand.

Tragedy Can Bring Joy:

What’s interesting to note during tragic circumstances, especially when it comes to the death of a family member, is that there is a diverse range of emotions on display. Sometimes you see the grieving partner that’s completely catatonic, but you’ll also see the other side, where there’s so much humor on display, that from an outsider looking in, it can be very perplexing! Gallows humor is one of those interesting things because it’s a wonderful coping mechanism for those people who have had pent up emotions relating to negativity for so long. When you see family members get together for a funeral, and they haven’t seen each other for a long time, it can almost seem like a reunion. And the difficult circumstances we go through in life have little glimmers of joy that we may feel on occasion are the things that will carry us through the tough times.

You always hear about someone who listened to an album ad nauseam because it helps them. And in terms of therapy, laughter is one of the greatest. And this is underselling it somewhat. Laughter is a fantastic reliever of stress. But when you get a bunch of people together in the same room that is going through a terrible time, it’s amazing how much joy and laughter can come out. And, it doesn’t detract from the situation but, rather, it adds to the emotions experienced. So turn on your favorite comedy or chat with your funniest friend and enjoy the laughter.

Difficult situations in life make us realize who we really are and what is really important. While it’s never a good thing to endure at the time, through the darkness, light can come through.

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4 Alternative Ways To Feel Your Brilliant, Beautiful Best

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4 Alternative Ways To Feel Your Brilliant, Beautiful Best

It’s all too easy to fall into a bit of a slump. We’re not unhappy, far from it, but we’re not exactly walking the streets feeling our most brilliant, beautiful best. But why shouldn’t we? There are plenty of things that we have to do as adults, but it’s the fun things that we’re capable of that make life worth living. If it’s been some time since you were feeling fantastic about yourself, then take a look some of the tips that we’ve outlined below. You’ll be walking on cloud nine and find that you’re all-around able to better handle the humdrum aspects of everyday life:

Get Dressed Up:

There are few things better than getting dressed up and heading to the city for a night out. Alas, we only ever really do this when we’re celebrating a special occasion, at which point it’s not really something that we want to do, but something that we need to do. It’s much more fun and enjoyable to get dressed up and go out into the town for no other reason than that we want to live life to the fullest. So the next time you have a free weekend, hit the stores, get a new outfit, and go out to enjoy all the possibilities of an evening out.

Attend a Shoot:

We don’t get as many opportunities to really show off the sensual side of our personality. As such, it can feel like it’s forever just lying under the surface, just waiting to get out. So why not let it out? A boudoir photo shoot is a fantastic way to express yourself and always leads to an increase in confidence (just wait till you see how good you look). Book a photo shoot here and let your inner and outer beauty shine through. You’ll be walking high with confidence afterward!

Listen to Music:

There are some tracks that just make us feel good. Indeed, this is one of the fun things about music: it transports us, briefly, to another world, and allows us to explore sides of ourselves that are sometimes left dormant for too long. If you want to feel great about yourself, then there are few better ways than heading out to dance for the night. People can get put off by super clubs and the like (and understandably so), but there are plenty of more niche, focused dance halls in your area, too. Grab some friends and dance the night away.

Hit the Spa:

Our bodies take a bit of a beating as we go through life. Sometimes, the weariness begins to feel normal, but it’s not! It’s only after you hit the spa or do a spot of yoga, that you realize that your body can feel oh so much better. Treat your body well, and you’ll be comfortable, relaxed, and just as you were supposed to be.

Whatever you end up doing, make sure you do it with confidence and a smile on your face!

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