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Honing & Perfecting Your Own Style

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Honing & Perfecting Your Own Style

Everyone has their own style, but you could easily argue that not everyone is fully aware of their own style. That is a real shame, because it is important to be able to feel truly comfortable with yourself and in your own skin – and if you’re not, then you will probably find that life is considerably less enjoyable on the whole. If you are keen to try and discover what your own style is, then you might want to think about some of the following:

Trial & Error:

Probably the most important thing to bear in mind, is that it usually takes a lot of trial and error before you can come across your own style. What that essentially means, is that you need to be prepared to perhaps not look your best, or even look quite silly, before you can discover what you look really good in. This sense of using trial and error to determine your style is likely to take some time, but you will find that it is the most effective means of ensuring that you actually manage to find it at all.

To begin with, you need to try out a number of different clothes styles, and you need to do so in different settings, so that you can really get a feel for how you look in what kind of environment. That is something which you will need to try out a lot and, again, you will have to be prepared to maybe feel a little silly along the way. But, as long as you are happy to do that, you will soon find that you can get to grips with what kind of clothing style tends to suit you best. Of course, it’s not just about your clothes, either. You will also want to think about what kind of general attitude and approach feels natural to you, but that is more to do with simply being true to your actual way of being than anything else, and that is what we are going to look at next.

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Cool sneaks are always a good look!

Be True To Yourself:

Along the way, it is important to make sure that you are being true to yourself, as hard as that can often be to do. In doing so, you should find that you can much more easily get to your own sense of style. The best way to do this is to make sure that you try not to pay too much attention to what other people think. That is much easier said than done, and most people will find that it takes a considerable amount of practice to get there, but as long as you are keen to do that you should find that you can eventually get to the point where you are being true to yourself, and not living for others.

Once you start along that path, you will gradually develop a groove, and you will find it easier to live your own way without worrying about others. The next natural step will be to have your own style. You will start to follow the path of least resistance, and you will be able to enjoy being you as truly as you like. Being true to yourself might sound like a cliche, but it’s the only way to really live your life.

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So cool!

Have A Signature:

While trying to perfect your own style, developing a signature is important. This can be a stand-out thing which is quite obvious or, if you prefer, it can be more subtle and you can simply wait for people to notice this particular thing about you. If you want to try and do this, either way, you will want to make sure that this signature is something which is actually true to yourself, and not merely something that you are trying to show off with. This is not about impressing people, but about having some clear signature which you can point to and is indicative of your style in some way.

This is not to say that it needs to be absolutely original in order to be effective, either. It might just so happen that you are going to be able to have a signature which is fairly common, and yet is still true to you, and that is something which you should admit is going to be fairly likely. For instance, a lot of people have tattoos, and these generally constitute their signatures, and you might have your own eye on a particular tattoo which is going to do that for you, too. If so, you will want to make sure that you are truly happy with it, as the last thing you want is to regret a tattoo. Of course, you should bear in mind that it is always possible to use tattoo laser removal, so it is never the end of the world, anyways. But, regardless, it is best to really be happy with it before you get it!

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Take Care Of Yourself:

If you are taking proper care of yourself, you will find it considerably easier to be able to be true to your own sense of style, and that will mean that you are much more likely to enjoy being you, in turn. Taking care of yourself means a lot of things and you should try to do as much of it as possible. Mostly, it is about ensuring that you are actually going to keep looking after your body through exercise and a proper diet, and that you are taking care of yourself psychologically, as well. As long as you are doing these things, you will find that it is easier to be true to yourself, and in turn to develop your style as you wish.

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Give yoga a try!

Having your own style is all about being yourself and, once you perfect this, nothing can stop you!

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Unpretty

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Unpretty

Hi everyone! Ugh, I’ve got to say, it’s been a really shitty past few weeks. Since my wisdom teeth surgery. I have been in a lot of pain and I just can’t seem to shake it. My sleep schedule has been thrown off completely, as I now wake up multiple times during the night to deal with the constant throbbing, which then results in bathroom breaks, and me not being able to fall asleep again for another hour or so.

And, because I am not sleeping well, I am so damn tired upon awakening that I can’t even get myself ready for an agonizing day at work. Not to mention that it would hurt too bad to try, anyways! I legit haven’t done my hair or makeup in well over a week now and it’s really starting to get to me.

I always pride myself on getting dressed to the nines to go about my day. It makes me feel good to know that I truly put my best face forward and when I’m out and about on the job, the most professional form of myself is out there. So, my self esteem has taken a beating post-op because of my no makeup streak.

Now, don’t get me wrong – I live for my no makeup days during the weekend. It doesn’t get much better than sporting a fresh face after being on the old nine to five grind for the week. But, almost two weeks of being au natural is pretty excessive for me, especially when my face has been bruised and swollen for the majority of it. And, because the pain has been so bad, I’ve been dressing for comfort, which Lil Red never does! Combining all of these circumstances has left me feeling downright Unpretty, and I just want to get back to my normal self.

Reading this, I’m sure it’s easy to say that I’m being too hard on myself. And, I know I am, which is the crazy thing. But, I hate not feeling like myself and this surgery has left me feeling so broken. Even now, I feel like I’m totally rambling but, ugh, I just needed to get all of this off my chest so thanks to all of you so much for listening. ❤

How do you get yourself feeling back to normal after being in the doldrums? What are some of your natural pain relief tips? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Learning To Love Your Appearance Every Single Day

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Learning To Love Your Appearance Every Single Day

You might have laughed at the title of this post because it’s not possible to love your appearance every single day, right? We all have the occasional “good hair day”, but that’s it. However, there’s no need to be so cynical. There are always going to be days on which you’re not a fan of your hair or you look a little sleepier than usual, but you can learn to love your appearance even when it’s not 100%. It all comes down to improving your mindset. And your mental health is linked to your physical health, so this will help to give your appearance a glow too. Reducing stress can reduce acne, for example, so there’s a clear correlation. Here’s how you can improve your mindset and learn to love your appearance every day:

Facial Beauty:

Let’s start off with your face, because that’s often the main point of focus when it comes to appearance. Many of us are critical of our facial appearance, but this is an aspect of beauty that’s easy to alter. You could start off by trying out microblading if you want to improve your brow game. Eyebrows have become a very important part of facial beauty over recent years, and you might find that changing the shape of your brows changes the appearance of your entire face. You could also try cutting back on foundation; makeup doesn’t always have to be the answer. Giving your skin a break from excessive use of foundation might help to clear up any blemishes, and it’ll make you naturally glow.

Fashion:

Fashion is another integral part of loving your appearance every single day. The way you dress has a massive impact on your overall look. If you dress well every day, then you’ll look good every day. It’s as simple as that. But avoid fast fashion; opt for clothes that are timelessly stylish so that they can stay in your wardrobe for years. That being said, if you give away some of your old clothes to charity because they no longer fit or suit you, then there might be an opening in your wardrobe for some new additions. If you want to get inspired, then you should look into some fashionable boutiques which offer modern yet varied options. It’s important that you’re not too restrictive with your choice of style. Fashion should reflect your personality, so have fun with it.

Sleep:

One of the best ways to improve your appearance is to improve your health. The way we look on the outside is a reflection of how well we take care of ourselves. Cutting out unhealthy habits such as smoking and drinking can help to improve your skin quality, for instance. You also need to prioritize a healthy sleeping pattern. The term “beauty sleep” is probably nothing new to you, and there’s a lot of substance to this idea. A cup of coffee might make you feel more awake, but does it get rid of the bags under your eyes? No. And that’s because your body is trying to tell you it needs rest. You can’t cut corners when it comes to sleeping well. Sleep deprivation can weaken your immune system, slow your metabolism, and even reduce muscle repair. In other words, your healthy workouts won’t have the impact you want. Start sleeping better if you want your body to improve in appearance. You’ll look and feel good. It’s about more than vanity; it’s about your physical and emotional wellbeing.

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Catch some Z’s!

A strong sense of self confidence can help you get through the toughest of times, so start building up yours little by little with the above tips!

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A Life Lesson From Facebook

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A Life Lesson From Facebook

Hi everyone! Facebook is the only form of social media that I have and I definitely prefer it that way. For the most part, it keeps me entertained and it would be just too much to have to maintain other social media pages on top of my blog. While scrolling through the book, I came across a meme that said something along the lines of “The people who are doing better than you don’t look down on you, it’s the ones who are falling behind that are hating” or whatever. Reading this poorly paraphrased quote instantly reminded me of a little story that goes like this:

I was once on a date with a guy and we were talking about college while we were in his car. At the time, I was at Cuyahoga Community College and he was at Kent State University studying photography. So, we’re sitting there talking and he tells me that he’s failing basically all of his classes. Meanwhile, I share with him that I’m really enjoying all of my courses and I wish that I had started my college career earlier. And, he snaps back with “that’s because you go to community college”.

Excuse me?!?!

Because he was the one failing his courses and I’m thriving in a college setting, that automatically makes Tri-C easier? Although they offer the same classes as any college in the area? Righhhhhht. I spent over three years out of school and I made the choice to give college a try even though I was so nervous of failure that I sometimes found it hard to breathe. And, instead of congratulating me for what would surely be a difficult task for anyone, he replied with a verbal slap in the face.

I’ll never forget this story, because it is so incredibly off putting. But, seeing it from the light of what that meme on Facebook said made me see it in an entirely different way. It was basically a rephrasing of the quote from The Interview “They hate us cause they ain’t us”. Lol, I was so confident in how I was doing in school and proud of myself but, someone tried to dull that down because he wasn’t happy with himself. And this, boys and girls, is an awful way to be.

I guess the point that I’m making is to not let anyone’s jealousy or whatever they might be feeling take away your confidence. Jealous people want you to stoop down to their level, because misery loves company. No matter what anyone says, words hurt. Use your words appropriately and, if you need to think about whether you should say something or not, chances are that you shouldn’t!

Has anyone ever had a similar scenario to the one that I described? How do you deal with haters? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

A Little Touch Up Here And There

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A Little Touch Up Here And There

Sometimes our bodies just aren’t the way we want them to be. We think to ourselves, I’d love to change this or I wish I looked like that. But can we always have what we want? No, we can’t. What we can do, however, is figure out ways that we can have a couple of touch ups here and there. Something to give us a little confidence boost when we need it! So, what little touch ups are we talking about you ask? We’ll list them below just for you. Even if some of them don’t suit you, it should actively get you thinking about the things that you actually can change!

I Can See Clearly Now!

Let’s face it, you can’t, can you? If there’s one thing that affects a majority of you reading this, it is going to be your eyesight. Some people are born with poor eyesight, some start to lose it during their teenage years, or even due to injury. When your vision becomes bad and you do have to rely on glasses, it can be one of the most annoying things! One option would be to consider looking at the types of lasik treatment to see if your sight can be corrected. Most of the time, there’s nothing that a good laser can’t fix, you just need to make sure that you’ve got the funds to be able to do something like this. The correction is usually permanent, however, so you could finally see clearly and live a life without glasses! You might also find that you only need one eye corrected, so it might not cost you as much as you think!

I Want A Washboard Stomach!

Ugh, don’t we all. When you see those girls with the completely flat and toned stomach, the nice rounded bum, and legs for days, you just can’t help but be jealous of them. But they’re not born with it, so don’t think it’s in the genes. It’s all about the hard effort they put into it, both inside and out of the gym. And you could easily do the same, if you put your mind to it. If you want that washboard look and you want it quickly, you should try and get yourself a personal trainer. They’ll whip you into shape, give you something to commit to, and give you all of the diet tips that you could ever need for a rockin’ bod.

Basic Beauty Hacks

Sometimes we just have to go back to basics if we want to be a better version of ourselves, and that starts with basic beauty tips. From making sure that you have a great skincare routine, to ensuring that you don’t eat a fatty diet that could bring out impurities. As for makeup, you should definitely start watching a few YouTube tips to know what makeup looks good, and where to put it. You can completely change your look with the power of make up!

Everyone has something that they wish they could change about themselves. And, with many great options out there, swapping out your desired change for a confidence boost is easier than you think!

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Body Issues: Learning To Overcome Insecurities And Love Yourself

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Body Issues: Learning To Overcome Insecurities And Love Yourself

A study found that 63% of female participants identified their weight as the key factor in how they felt about themselves. Despite the rise of positive body awareness, such as Ashley Graham’s #BeautyBeyondSize, thousands of women feel the anxiety to keep up with celebrities and social media. The good news, is that there is never a ‘better time’ to start loving and taking care of yourself than right now. Here’s how you can learn to overcome insecurities and love yourself:

Make Healthy Changes:

What better way to boost self-confidence than to achieve long-term goals. Rather than setting impossible goals such as ‘losing 20 pounds in a week” or “achieving a tiny waist in three months”, aim to start a new fitness routine and incorporate organic foods into your diet. When you eat right and exercise on a regular basis, your hormones will slowly fall into balance and help you to feel your best.

Consider A Makeover:

While a proper diet and fitness routine can help you lose the unwanted weight, thousands of women still struggle with extra baggage. Despite the “taboo” of plastic surgery, 17.5 million procedures were performed in 2017 alone, according to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons. If you’re tempted to get liposuction or a tummy tuck to reduce loose skin, you’re not the only one. In fact, nearly 2 million individuals opted for immense services like boob jobs, liposuction, and rhinoplasty. So, whether it is a total “Mommy Makeover” or a simple lip injection, your plastic surgeon will guide you and address the most common body issues.

Dealing with the Root of the Problem:

We all have our moments of highs and lows, but what’s important is that we see beauty in many shapes and sizes. So, to help you focus on dealing with what makes you feel insecure, you must first look at what triggers those emotions. Here are some ways to discover more about your interests, insecurities, desires, and most of all, yourself:

  • Writing a blog or your own personal journal about what you love about your body.
  • Stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself in a positive way. Like really look at yourself and voice out your favorite attributes.
  • Seek support from counselors, family, and friends to help you battle the insecurities and solve the underlying issue.

The reality is that no amount of diet, weight loss, or even plastic surgery can fix poor body image and low self-esteem. Those who struggle with negative body image must discover the underlying issues and learn how it is influencing the way that they feel about themselves.

Changing the way you look may seem like a tangible way to alter what you disliked about your body. But, the only way to heal from low self-confidence is to address the issues and face them head-on. Only then can you truly learn how to overcome your insecurities and love yourself.

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Fight These Common Causes Of Low Self Esteem

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Fight These Common Causes Of Low Self Esteem

One of the best things about life is being able to put ourselves first. Sure, it is always good to help others and ensure that our actions aren’t negatively affecting the people around us, but at the end of the day, we need to live our lives so that they benefit us and place us at number one. By making sure we do what is right for us and making decisions that will benefit us and our life, we can then start to truly love ourselves and feel good about our life choices.

However, loving ourselves isn’t always as easy as it should be. That’s because it can sometimes be easier to find reasons to hate ourselves and put ourselves down. More often than not, this causes low self-esteem and poor self-confidence. Low self-esteem can have many negative effects, especially on our mental health. If we suffer with it for long periods of time, it can transform into anxiety disorders.

If you are suffering from low self-esteem, then you will no doubt be busy trying to find a solution to all of these negative feelings. Most experts believe that the best way to deal with any self doubts is to find the cause of them and tackle them head on. So, this begs the question: what are the causes of low self-esteem? Here are some of the most common ones and what you can do about them.

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Toxic Relationships:

Bad relationships can be the cause of a lot of grief and heartache. Unfortunately, they can also often lead directly to feelings of self-doubt and low confidence. Not only that, though, but it can also cause issues with trust. When we enter into a relationship with someone, we put all of our trust into them. When they abuse this trust, we can often feel worthless and like our trust means nothing. However, that is very much not the case. The best thing that you can do in this situation, is to get out of the toxic relationship as soon as you can.

Even if you still love your partner, it is important that you remove yourself from the relationship so that your confidence and mental health isn’t damaged any further. Just keep on telling yourself that you deserve someone who truly loves you and won’t throw your trust back in your face. Don’t forget that this toxicity doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships. Friendships can often turn bad. If you think that your friends are bringing you down and causing you self-esteem problems, it could be a good idea to move on from them.

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A Poor Body Image:

Some people struggle with their body image, and they find that their poor body confidence ends up dragging down their self-confidence as a whole. If this sounds like your main problem, then it is worth trying to change how you see yourself and working on improving your body confidence. There are a few things that you can do which will help this. First of all, you should stop comparing your body to others. We are all made differently, so there are bound to be lots of different shapes out there. And there isn’t a perfect or ideal one – that is just something that the media came up with to try and sell more gossip magazines!

As well as not comparing yourself to others, you should also ignore what the media has to say about body shapes and sizes. They only print what they do to sell more copies of magazines and newspapers, and get more clicks on their sites! One other way that you can give your body image a boost is to surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and who will fill you with confidence. If you find that the people who you hang out with are trying to get you to change the way you look or the clothes you wear, they aren’t doing you any good and they certainly aren’t your friends.

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The Aging Process:

You aren’t born with self-confidence issues. Sometimes, they come and go throughout life. Some women find that even if they were super confident throughout their twenties and thirties, once they hit middle age, they lose all of their self-esteem. And that is largely due to the aging process. No one wants to get older. Not only that, but many people find it hard to deal with the physical changes that their body undergoes as they start to grow old. So, there’s no wonder that many people try to hide the tell-tale signs of aging, such as under eye lines and crow’s feet. If you find that you are feeling down about getting old, you might find that changing your mindset to a more positive one really helps improve your feelings and helps you come to terms with aging.

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Feeling Guilty:

We all make mistakes as we go through life, but some of those mistakes seem to haunt us for longer than others. Having this guilt hang around our heads constantly can get us down and will eventually lead to very poor self-esteem. If at all possible, you need to shake away the guilt. One way around these negative feelings is to try and think of all of the positive things that came from making these mistakes. For instance, perhaps a particular mistake actually opened up some doors for you in your life and were able to bring you more opportunities. Plus, it is important to remember that mistakes can be learned from and help you grow and develop as a better person. I’m sure that some good came from your mistakes. Focus on this positivity and forget about the guilty feelings!

 

Setting Goals That Are Too Big:

Another problem that most people have to deal with is a self-imposed one. The majority of us set ourselves targets and goals in life to stay as productive and motivated as possible. Then, when we achieve them, we can feel proud and successful. However, it is very important that when you do think about our life goals and targets, that they aren’t too big and unachievable. Otherwise, they will be impossible for you to reach, and you will end up extremely frustrated and unfulfilled in the process.

As a result, you may end up thinking that you are not really good enough. Eventually, those thoughts will lead to poor self-confidence and self-esteem. So, the best way to tackle this is to prevent these thoughts in the first place. Rather than setting yourself goals that are exceptionally high, you should consider reducing them to make them more achievable. That way, you can feel good when you work towards them rather than beating yourself up every time you fail.

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Traumatic Experiences:

Sometimes people go through traumatic life experiences and, even though they are able to make a full recovery, they are often left plagued by low self-esteem. The best way around this is to sign up for some therapy sessions. During each session, you will be able to speak to a therapist about your ordeal, and they will help you come to terms with any PTSD or resulting self-confidence issues.

Living life with low self esteem is no way to live life. Begin to tackle your issues and watch yourself blossom!

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