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Jul24

Identifying When Your Friend Might Need Your Support

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Identifying When Your Friend Might Need Your Support

Despite the immense potential and beauty that life can offer, and does offer all of the time, sometimes we all must enter periods of sadness, sorrow, and doubt. This can trigger from a range of different problems, and we all experience it now and then. Not everyone can be functioning at 100% all of the time, and periods of depression or isolation can actually serve for the greater good in the long-term. If you’re going through a period of depression, that previous statement must be apologized for in terms of its bluntness, but not it terms of its message.

Trivializing depression is always wrong, but robbing it of all complete perceptive value would be wrong, too. Overcoming a depressive episode can make you a stronger, more down-to-earth person. Remember, a tree’s branches can only reach as high as its roots go. A person who has successfully made it through a depressive episode is likely to come through the other side better off in some ways. It can be a purifying fire, that forces you to prioritize what is important to you, who is important to you, and how you can best live your life with wisdom and foresight.

However, this doesn’t mean that being depressed isn’t real. If you’ve been through feelings of despair yourself, you’ll know about the support that you hope for but usually can’t articulate your desire to retrieve. As a friend, it’s important that you keep an eye on your other friends or roommates to make sure they are okay and doing well. Here’s what to look for if you notice a change for the negative in your loved ones:

Change In Physical Appearance: Depression can rob you of many things, not the least your physical vitality. If you’ve noticed that your friend lacks their usual vitality, they could be deeply depressed, or even worse, they might be turning to substances to overcome their issues. This never works in the short or long term, but is a tempting process for someone who feels that they have no escape.

Communicating your concerns can be difficult to approach in these circumstances without seeming hostile. Living with a prescription addict can be even worse, because they can often get a sanctified, legal way to obtain their habitual maladies. To overcome these issues, try and help them get help through any means necessary. Inform their GP and family. Be there for them. If you have to, organize some form of stay-in recovery. Depression culminates in many ways, and people take it differently depending on their personality. Another sign to look out for is:

Withdrawing From Social Life: Withdrawing from standard social discourse is a good sign that tells you that someone isn’t functioning at 100%. Another sign is keeping an odd schedule, such as replying to your messages on social media at the early hours of the morning. A symptom of depression is late sleeping and late rising, so be sure to look out for this. Even introverted people need social contact, so complete withdrawal, especially if said person used to be social, can be taken in a number of ways.

Communicate clearly to the person that you harbor no ill-will for them limiting themselves or withdrawing, but let them know that you are worried about them. Never stop inviting them to places. Consider doing activities inside with just the two of you. Try and open up conversation as much as possible without being annoying. See what you can do to be present. Even if they don’t show it, they’ll likely need you far more than you think.

Sometimes, the best remedy as a friend is your simple presence. However, sometimes it requires more than that. Be sure to identify which one will be more helpful and take further action when needed. What matters is your observation and your willingness to help your friend through thick and thin.

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Jul10

5 Tips For When You’re Worried a Friend Has a Mental Illness

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5 Tips For When You’re Worried a Friend Has a Mental Illness

It is, unfortunately, just a fact of life that so many people are suffering from mental conditions. These problems can affect people from all backgrounds and demographics. You really can’t know who is suffering and who’s not just by looking at what they have or how much money they earn. If Prince Harry of England can suffer from mental health issues, then anybody can. When it’s your close friend or partner, sudden changes in their mood and outlook on life can be glaringly obvious to you. Here are five tips for handling that situation, should it arise (we hope it doesn’t!):

Talk It Out:

People have a hard time opening up about mental health problems, which is one of the problems in the first place! So it’s unlikely that your friend is just going to spill every single detail about what’s going on inside their mind, especially if they like to put on a front that everything is all good. If you suspect that something’s up, have a conversation with them. A real one. They might just have a small issue that they just need someone to listen to. If it’s more serious than that, then you can take it further. For example, a major cause of mental illness is childhood abuse. If this is something that your loved one confided in you, you might want to read this helpful article about Understanding Childhood Abuse and Mental Health so you can be a better support system.

Give Positive Energy:

If a friend is suffering from something that’s not nice to deal with, then they will obviously be in a dark place. While it’s not easy to be your bright and cheerful self around someone incapable of matching your enthusiasm, it’s important that you bring all of the positive energy you can muster when you’re around them. This doesn’t mean being loud and suggesting a wacky adventure every time you’re with them; it means being calm, thoughtful, positive, and suggesting activities that might boost their mood. It won’t be easy, so patience is definitely a virtue.

Encourage Them To Get Help:

Sometimes, a friend will be suffering from problems much more threatening than mild depression, for instance. It might be that they need to get professional help. Unfortunately, they might not go down this path if they haven’t accepted that anything’s wrong. When that happens, help them see for themselves that something isn’t right. If you suspect your friend is suffering from schizophrenia, have them take a self-screening test from schizlife.com here. When they don’t feel attacked and can be honest with themselves, they might be more willing to seek professional help for their problems.

Don’t Get Too Close:

While it’s important that you do everything that you can to make sure your friend is okay, you should avoid getting too close to the situation. This is especially relevant if the friend is your boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s important that you keep a healthy distance, for their sake as well as your own, as sometimes your own mental health can suffer when looking after their other half. Make sure that you take care of you, too.

You’re There For Them:

Above all, make sure they know that you’ll always be there for them. Some people’s conditions flare up, and they need to know someone is there for emotional support. If you let them know that you are available, night or day, then they’ll have an extra dose of comfort knowing that they’re not alone in the world.

Mental health issues can be scary, and as a friend or partner it is your duty to show support to a loved one who is struggling. Life is not always sunshine and rainbows, but you can definitely try and help it to be!

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Jun6

Proceed With Confidence! Tips To Overcome Procedural Anxiety

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Proceed With Confidence! Tips To Overcome Procedural Anxiety

For one reason or another, most of us in our lives will have a surgical procedure at some point. Some may be prophylactic, designed to prevent or reduce the chances of a serious medical condition, while others may be to treat an existing condition. Whatever the cause, the prospect of undergoing a surgical procedure can be extremely daunting, particularly if we’re doing it for the first time. Procedural anxiety is a very real psychological condition, which can have incredibly damaging physical effects. In some worst case scenarios, patients have been known to refuse potentially life-saving surgery because they were so crippled by the prospect of going ‘under the knife’.

Fear of the unknown is one of the defining traits of human psychology. It’s the reason why we have learned to hide in our caves and not to tangle with saber toothed tigers. But in today’s world, our anxiety can take many forms that can be damaging to us, especially when our health is concerned. Let’s examine the anxieties that accompany surgical procedures and what you can do to combat them:

Do I Have Procedural Anxiety? Like many forms of anxiety, procedural anxiety can take many forms. While there are recognizable symptoms, they manifest differently in different people. If you’ve experienced any of these symptoms when considering surgery, or in a dialogue with your doctor about surgery, then chances are you are affected by procedural anxiety:

  • Breathlessness
  • Sweating
  • Nausea or stomach upset
  • Dry mouth
  • Irritability
  • Shaking/trembling
  • Heart palpitations or accelerating heart rate
  • Loss of appetite
  • Inability to think clearly or speak intelligibly
  • A sensation of detachment from reality
  • Fainting or fear of fainting
  • Fear of losing control.

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These symptoms can be brought on by certain triggers. Most of us don’t even have to be in a hospital to start feeling them. In some cases, just the sight of blood or injury in television or movies is enough to make us feel nauseous. These kinds of anxiety are perfectly natural and more common than we may think. They affect us because of three key factors:

Loss of Control: It’s no small feat to entrust the care of our body to someone else if we are unconscious or otherwise anesthetized. This degree of trust in your surgeon is at odds with our every primal instinct to protect ourselves.

The Stakes: Surgery can lead to a better life that is free of whatever impediment the surgery is designed to treat. Often physical conditions or injuries can throw a wrench in the works of our plans for life, and surgery represents a chance to overcome that hurdle. With that in mind, it’s perfectly understandable that we’d invest our hopes in the procedure and the prospect of something going wrong or the procedure failing, which would be devastating.

Mortality: As we live our lives, we become so caught up in the minutes of our day-to-day lives that we subliminally assume that they’ll go on forever. Surgical procedures can be a stark reminder of our own mortality and make us feel fragile and vulnerable.

There’s no denying that procedural anxiety is a biggie, but that’s no reason to let it get the better of you. Here are some things that you can do to stifle your fears and go into a procedure with confidence:

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First, remember that you are not alone: Whatever happens, you have support every step of the way. Make sure that you make the most if it. Bring your partner, a close friend, or a family member with you whenever you feel you need some extra love. The medical staff will be there to help you and answer any questions that you may have, so voice anything that’s troubling you. If you’re worried about the prospect of something going wrong with the procedure, the surgeon, or the tools then rest assured that it’s relatively easy and risk free to get an attorney to help you.

Get to know your doctor: There can be no better way to squash the fear of the unknown than by familiarizing yourself with your doctor, medical staff, and the attending physician. Get them to describe the procedure to you in as much detail as possible (if you can stomach it). This will remind your subconscious that you are entrusting your body to a skilled, competent, and experienced professional.

Be as open with them as possible about your anxieties. You’d be astonished how understanding they’ll be. In many cases, they will work collaboratively with you, enabling you to make decisions for yourself when possible.

Educate Yourself: Knowing is half the battle, and nowhere is this more relevant than when discussing procedural anxiety. For some, having the procedure explained by a professional isn’t nearly enough and there’s no such thing as too much knowledge. Researching the procedure is one of the surest ways to rid yourself of fear of it. If possible, try and make contact with friends and family who’ve undergone similar procedures. Some people who’ve undergone surgical procedures write blogs to reassure others. Reading these can be a great reminder of what you have to gain and look forward to after the procedure.

However prepared we are, we often find ourselves overcome by fear and anxiety at times so here are some coping strategies that you may find useful:

Distraction: If you feel your mind dwelling, then it can be very counter productive. Listen to music or read a book or article in a magazine or online. Even focusing on the tiny details of a painting on the wall can give your mind a break from itself.

Challenge Negative Thoughts: We have a tendency to jump to the worst case scenario and it’s important to catch these thoughts and nip them in the bud as soon as they crop up. Use your newfound knowledge to assure yourself that the facts and logic outweigh your worst case superstitions.

Visualize: Many find it helpful to create a positive visualization to calm your anxious mind. Take yourself back to a time when you were carefree and happy and try and transpose that feeling to your future, to a time that you can look forward to after the procedure.

Remember that your anxieties are perfectly understandable and natural, but hopefully using these techniques will prevent you from letting it be the boss of you so that you can proceed with confidence!

May29

High Tension: How To Deal With Stress More Effectively

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High Tension: How To Deal With Stress More Effectively

There are few people in the world who would deny that life can be pretty stressful at times. Between work, family, socializing, and all of the other aspects of life that you find yourself coming into constant contact with, even the good parts of it can make you a bit frazzled. Unfortunately, for a lot of people, these stress levels can get to be entirely too much. While a little bit of stress here and there isn’t really going to do anyone much harm, it’s surprisingly easy for it to build up into something much more dangerous. Stress can easily go from an inconvenience to something that causes problems for your personal relationships, your work life, and your health. There are plenty of people for whom stress becomes so serious that it can lead to long-lasting consequences.

The question, then, is how to deal with it. How can you prevent stress from taking over your life and well being? Well, there’s no single answer, and every person’s experience is different. Here are some of the best ways that you can go about beating stress and preventing it from wreaking havoc in your world:

Change Your Perspective: A lot of the time, the only difference between a minor inconvenience and a major source of stress is your attitude towards it. If you respond to every problem in your life with anger, worry, and tension, then those problems are going to start to seem far bigger and more complicated than they really are. There are plenty of ways to adjust your perspective on things. A change in your lifestyle or the addition of a mood support supplement can allow you to feel much more emotionally in control, which can make daily problems less scary. By being able to take a step back and observe the problems in your life from a more honest, objective perspective, you’re in a much better position to figure out how best to deal with them in the future.

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Get Organized: One of the worst things that you can do when it comes to stress is to hide your head in the sand. While it might seem like a good option at first, all it’s going to do is turn a small problem into a big problem very quickly. If you want to deal with stress, then the best thing to do is to get organized. Organizing yourself and prioritizing things that need dealing with will make it less likely that you end up in a position where you feel out of control. Give yourself to do lists and deadlines to deal with certain causes of stress. By avoiding letting yourself make excuses for why you’re not dealing with things, you get them out of the way much faster and more conveniently, which can be a huge weight off of your shoulders.

Ask For Help: There’s an old saying that goes “no man is an island”. This means that no matter what your gender is, you can’t face every problem all by yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with needing to ask for help from people around you. This might be needing the help of a co-worker to finish a difficult task. It might be reaching out to a family member or friend for emotional or even financial support, or it could be scheduling an appointment with a doctor. Nobody likes going to the doctor, and it’s made even worse when you’re stressed about an intimate problem, like ED. ED is more common than you might think in men, however, so there’s no shame in visiting an ED Clinic Lehi (or your local area) if you’re having problems in the underwear department. If you’re feeling especially overwhelmed, you may even want to reach out to a qualified professional who can help you figure out the best possible way to handle the stress that you’re dealing with.

While many people mistakenly believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness, it’s actually a sign of true strength because it shows that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to deal with the stress and problems that are getting you down. Eventually, you’ll be in a position where you can deal with many causes of stress yourself. But by reaching out to other people, you can often lighten the load enough to get back on your feet.

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Friends don’t let friends get stressed out!

Try Stress Busting Products: There are plenty of things out there that are designed to actively combat stress. If your stress is extreme, unprovoked, or you’re finding that you’re really struggling, you should reach out to a doctor who may be able to diagnose any underlying conditions and provide prescription medications. If your stress is manageable, but you’d rather not feel so stressed all of the time, consider the best CBD oil on the market.

CBD and cannabis products are quickly becoming a popular option for reducing stress. These types of products are also more accessible than ever with dispensaries and online shopping options. There are a variety of ways to use them through vapes, edibles, or opting to buy thca flower. Finding the right option for you might take some trial and error but can prove to be an effective way of dealing with stress.

Of course, there are always going to be causes of stress in your life no matter what you do, that’s just something everyone has to come to terms with. However, with this advice, you can avoid that stress from becoming so serious that it actually starts to have a negative impact on your life as a whole. Then, you’ll be able to carry on with your life, free from the kind of tension and pressure that far too many people deal with every single day.

May12

A Parents And Teacher’s Guide To Teenage Depression

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A Parents And Teacher’s Guide To Teenage Depression

As a parent or teacher, we know that it is normal for teenagers to be moody and sullen. However, it is important to understand when this becomes something more serious. It is a sad fact that the suicide rate in young people is growing, so as a concerned adult you need to recognize the symptoms of depression and understand the pressures your children might be facing.

It may be that you already work in the field of mental health, are considering a career in doing so, or taking one of the masters in clinical mental health counseling programs. Parents, teachers, and counselors are on the front line when it comes to caring for children, and it is vitally important that you know how to help when they are suffering inside. Depression sucks, and here’s a few of the reasons of what might be causing it in your children, students, or friends:

Causes of Depression: Medically speaking, there is still no real evidence as to what causes depression. Genetics may play a part, as is a chemical imbalance in the brain. For the teenager, there are certain factors that can contribute. These include:

Self-Image: Every day, children are bombarded with messages from the media, peers, and social networking on how they should look, feel, and conform. Many young people suffer from body issues when they unrealistically compare themselves to the airbrushed models in magazines and online. If they are not the right weight or don’t have the right clothing, this can be a great source of stress for the teenager, especially when they face bullying because of it.

School: We all know how hard school can be (as if we needed reminding!). It is supposed to be a place of learning and growth, however, for some young people, the only knowledge they are getting is that they are not good enough. Fitting in with peers, broken relationships, dealing with too much homework, studying for tests and exams, and preparing for colleges can add a huge amount of stress into your child’s life.

Bullying is a major issue that can affect children physically and mentally. With the rise of social media, so much bullying is done online, with vile private messages and the posting of personal pictures, which the child has no control over. This can give off the illusion of nowhere being safe for the child.

What can you do? For starters, be there to offer support. They may not tell you how they are feeling, but encourage them to talk when appropriate. Symptoms of depression include moodiness, withdrawal from family and friends, lack of passion in things that they normally enjoyed doing, and mood swings. Some of these are normal for a teenager as their bodies change, but they could also be warning signs.

When you talk to your child or student, be open and listen to what they have to say. Do not judge or say something glib, such as ‘snap out of it’ (smh!!). Share your concerns with a doctor and other mental health professionals to ensure that the child receives the help that they need to get them back on track and smiling again.

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Mar8

How To Improve Your Physical, Mental, And Spiritual Health

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How To Improve Your Physical, Mental, And Spiritual Health

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it can seem almost impossible to find the time to look out for Number One: Yourself. Creating a healthy lifestyle not only for your physical well being but for your mental and spiritual self, as well, can only benefit you in the long run. In this article, we will explore some simple changes that you can employ for a better, healthier you:

Your Physical Health

Start Eating Well: There’s nothing better for your health than making sure that you eat good food cooked from scratch. Convenience foods may be handy but they often contain more sodium and sugar than you should be eating, which can affect your fitness and moods. Start meal planning so you don’t get stuck for what you should have for lunch or dinner and make sure that you eat breakfast so you aren’t tempted to snack on candy and junk food during the morning at work.

Get Physically Fit: If you don’t feel as though you’re at peak physical condition, now is the time to change that. You don’t necessarily have to go to the gym every day after work – instead, start walking more and make sure that you start to take the stairs instead of the elevator whenever you can. Start a class like yoga or Zumba – you could even take a friend along with you for moral support and a good laugh!

Take Care Of Your Senses: As much as we may rely on them, we often overlook our senses when it comes to making positive changes for our health. Ensure a routine hearing check to get the full scope of your hearing health, and to see whether you might need hearing aids or not. Make appointments for eye tests, as well. As we get older, the chances of changes to these senses increase exponentially, so we have to be proactive in addressing them.

Pain Management: If your aches and pains feel constant, it is not only a huge deterrent to your physical health but mental health too. This is not something that you should simply live with but find a way to improve. Clinics like next pain management roswell (or something similar in your local area) can provide personalized treatment plans to help you get back to feeling your best. With excellent pain management, you will notice a boost in your energy levels and overall sense of well being.

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Deal With Your Chronic Conditions: If you have any chronic conditions, then it’s important that you deal with them carefully and that you get healthy to whatever extent that you can. If you have asthma, make sure that you use a preventative inhaler to stop yourself from getting tight chested and suffering from asthma attacks – Ventolin can be ordered online. If you suffer from chronic pain, make sure that you stay active and do gentle exercises to help ease the tension in stiff joints.

Your Mental Health

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Learn Coping Strategies: If you suffer from panic attacks or depression, then it’s important that you try to learn coping strategies that will help get you through every day. Learn to identify issues that will affect you – perhaps you don’t like crowded trains or there are certain things that your boss says that rattles you – and focus on how you can better deal with them. Breathing deeply often works wonders as well as giving yourself plenty of time to deal with anything that might arise.

Go To Your Doctor: If you think that you may be suffering from mental health difficulties, then go to your doctor. It’s an illness like any other and you shouldn’t feel ashamed if you’re affected by a condition like depression or anxiety. They can negatively affect a lot of areas of your life, which means that you need to get them sorted out as quickly as possible. Therapy can help a lot of people, as can medication. Remember, you’d medicate a physical health ailment so why not your mental health, too?

Sleep Better: It’s very difficult to get much done during the day if you aren’t sleeping well. If the light comes into your bedroom in the morning and wakes you up, then why not invest in blackout blinds? You should also make sure that you turn off all of your technology like your laptop and phone before you go to bed, because they can keep you awake. Instead, use the hour before you go to sleep as an excuse to have a lavender scented shower, read a book, or light some candles and meditate.

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Zzzzzz…

Your Spiritual Health

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Learn To Be Alone: If you don’t spend much time by yourself, now is the time to start. Learning to love yourself begins with realizing that you’re an interesting person to be around. Make sure that you indulge yourself in your hobbies – you can go to see movies alone, you can go to galleries, to shows, to concerts. Take a solo vacation and luxuriate in the joy of having only your own whims to attend to.

Be Around Good People: One of the battles of everyday life is instantly won when you’re around good people who truly listen and want the best for you. If you have any old friends who don’t make you feel good anymore, it’s okay to gently phase them out of your life. Friends who challenge you and make you think are great but if your friends don’t support you, they might not be a healthy fit for your current lifestyle.

Be Kind To Yourself: Finally, you need to make sure that you treat yourself with as much kindness as you treat others. Cut yourself some slack – make sure that you have a night in by yourself if you feel tired and worn out by other people and don’t beat yourself up too much for any little embarrassing moments. We often tend to treat ourselves a lot less kindly than we would treat others so try to remember how supportive you’d be for someone in your situation and treat yourself the same way. And remember: You’re one hundred and fifty percent totally awesome.

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Take some you time!

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Feb24

Warning Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Job

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Warning Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Job

It’s important to remember sometimes why it is that you work. You work so that you can live and enjoy your life. But for too many people, their job is the reason that they hate their life, and it seeps into everything else that they do. It ends up ruining their evenings, weekends, and holidays.

According to Ryan Kahn, the star of the MTV show Hired, people generally fall into two categories. For some people, the reasons why they should leave their job are completely visible. They get to the point where they recognize the need for change and that the time has come to move on and send resumes with cover letters to new employers. But for other people, the reasons aren’t so obvious. Many people, it turns out, sleepwalk through their lives, not taking account about how they really feel about their work and not recognizing that it is making them deeply unhappy.

These people suffer from what is known as a thinking rut. They compartmentalize their lives, thinking that they cannot grow beyond the walls that they have erected for themselves. The good news is that there are some common warning signs that are a clear indication that it’s time to leave your job, some of which are shared below:

You’re Not Passionate About What You Do: It’s pretty hard to get up day after day and go do a job that you don’t care about. In fact, it’s soul destroying. When you’re not enjoying work, you suddenly become aware that time is passing. This creates resentment because you’d much rather be doing something else that is fulfilling.

Lynn Taylor, an author who writes about office politics, says that people should think back to how they felt the day that they were given their current position. Usually, they feel utterly elated for having secured the position and they are really excited about the possibilities that the new job will bring for their professional careers and their lives in general. When this passion is gone, she says, people are rarely able to tap into their true potential.

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You Wake Up Miserable Every Morning: In simple terms, this means that you hate work. You’d rather be doing anything other than the job and you only haul yourself out of the house because you know you’ve got to pay the bills. This is no way to live one’s life, especially when there are countless other career options that you could look in to.

You’re Consistently Negative: Another warning sign is that you feel negative or anxious all the time, especially on Sunday evenings, before you have to head back out on a Monday morning. This feeling is an unconscious warning from your mind that all is not well with your job. Often, job stress leads to family stress which can harm your relationships in the long term.

Your Performance At Work Is Suffering: Another way you know that the time has come for you to leave your job is when your performance starts to tank. People who get worse at what they do over time are usually suffering from an extreme case of apathy. Often, you’ll know that you’re completely capable of carrying out the tasks that have been asked of you, but you don’t bother to do it to the best of your ability because you’re no longer willing or able to put your energies into projects for the company.

Your Work/Life Balance Has Disappeared: Different people have different tolerances when it comes to work. Some people like to work every hour that God gives, while others would prefer to work as short a time as possible. Many companies, however, don’t see things from the worker’s perspective. Instead, they demand lots of their time. If you find yourself not able to commit to the hours that are being asked of you, it might be time to consider taking another job. If you’re finding that you’re unable to spend the time with your family that you’d like – again, it might be time to find another job.

Your Duties Have Increased, But The Pay Hasn’t: Some unscrupulous employers will try to give you extra responsibilities but not increase your pay. Taylor says that this is a common tactic used by companies to try to keep their wage bills down. Of course, you have to be careful when it comes to things like pay. Sometimes the company can’t afford to pay more, simply because it isn’t doing enough business. But more often than not, the company is doing fine, it’s just not willing to increase your salary. This is a sign that the company doesn’t respect you and that you should take your talents elsewhere.

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Jan26

The Holy Grail: Achieving Peace Of Mind

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The Holy Grail: Achieving Peace Of Mind

If you ask ten people what happiness means to them, you’re likely to receive ten different responses. Being happy isn’t necessarily about feeling ecstatic every single day. Many people associate happiness with a sense of calm and being in the world without too many stresses. It’s not possible to remove all stress from your life, but it is possible to take steps to prevent issues from arising and giving you peace of mind:

The Worst Case Scenario: If worrying about what may or may never happen is one of your problems, this directive may seem strange. However, if we think of the thing that we fear the most and accept it, then take the necessary steps to a better outcome, we can go on with our life. At least it may lift the worry a little. In his book, ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’, Dale Carnegie outlines this strategy of trying to accept the worst case scenario.

Sometimes, despite all of our best efforts, things go wrong. Relationships fail and household disasters occur. All we can do is to mitigate the risk as much as possible and act quickly. Putting a plan in place is also helpful. So, if your power goes off at 9 pm on a Friday evening, having an after hours electrician in your address book will provide a quick and simple solution. Or, if you fear being late for work, make a strategy to help yourself to leave early to beat the morning traffic and arrive with time to spare.

Health Woes: We all want to protect our families and those closest to us and this may lead to fears over health. We never know what life is going to throw at us. Even the healthiest people such as marathon runners and surgeons get ill. All we can do is take steps to lead a balanced and healthy life to prevent illness from occurring.

Getting Things Done: Another common source of stress is how to get everything done. This includes work, home, and even getting the kids to school on time. Usually, these fears are at their most active when you’re doing too much. This leads to exhaustion which just exacerbates the problem. The best way to tackle this is to write down all of the tasks you have to complete each day. Next to the items write down the outcome or benefit you receive from these tasks. If it turns out you’re spending all of your time working on projects or items that don’t generate results, it could be time to make some adjustments.

If you’re spending too much time at work and still getting nowhere, you may need to review this with your boss. This could involve receiving extra training or delegating to a colleague. It may involve a tricky conversation about what hours you are prepared to work and where the line is drawn.

Learning To Troubleshoot: Possessing excellent problem solving skills is often an effective way of reducing your anxieties. Once you have learned this technique, you can use it in almost all situations. First, write down your problem. Next, analyze it and look at it from all angles. Be specific and outline exactly what the problem is. Then, provide several solutions for the problem and analyze each one. What are the advantages and what are the disadvantages? Now, decide which solution you’re going to adopt and when you’re going to put it into practice. If you’re good at resolving problems, you’re less likely to worry as you’ll understand that there is nothing that can’t be fixed.

If you’re a natural worrier, finding peace of mind may seem like finding the holy grail. But, with the right mindset and a few simple techniques, this is certainly possible.

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Nov24

6 Ways To Soothe Your Anxious Mind

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6 Ways To Soothe Your Anxious Mind

It is estimated that almost one-fifth of adults in the USA suffer from an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is the most common mental illness. Fortunately, it is highly treatable, and there are practical steps you can take to ease the symptoms.

What Is Anxiety? Anxiety is an umbrella phrase that we use to describe feelings of unease, fear, and worry. It is part of our flight or flight response and is a perfectly natural reaction. Without it, our life could be in danger as we would not be able to perceive danger. However, it can become a problem if it begins to limit your life in some way. Common symptoms include:

  • Feelings of intense fear and panic
  • A general sense of unease
  • A feeling of foreboding
  • Problems sleeping
  • Heart palpitations
  • Dry mouth
  • Feeling on edge or not being able to sit still
  • Nausea
  • Headaches and other aches and pains
  • Tense muscles
  • Feeling light-headed or dizzy
  • Sweating
  • Panic attacks

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How To Tackle Anxiety:

  1. Seek Help: If you feel that you’re suffering from anxiety, the first step is to seek professional help. Your doctor can refer you to a psychologist or therapist. Alternatively, you can approach a therapist directly. Psychologists help to identify the underlying problems and take steps to fix them. Always seek professional help if you’re unsure or if you feel like you can’t deal with an issue yourself. If you have feelings of suicide or self-harm then emergency help should be sought immediately. Anxiety by its nature can feel insurmountable. However, it is highly treatable, and you will feel better again. If you are ready to see a professional, simply enter a search for “anxiety therapy near me” and keep in mind that you might need to try a few different therapists until you find the right fit for you.
  1. Identify The Triggers: If you’re feeling anxious a lot of the time, try to identify the triggers. When the feelings arise, notice what is happening in your life. Are you at work? Are you with a particular person? Is it the situation that is stressful? Try to identify the feeling and work out what your fear is. It might not be practical to remove yourself completely from that situation. But you can change the way that you react and think about it. This is something that a therapist can help with.
  1. Take A Break: It’s impossible to think clearly when you’re overwhelmed by anxiety. Your mind becomes cluttered with thoughts and feelings. Try to take a break from the situation. Step outside for fifteen minutes and try to clear your head. Take some deep breaths and than try to better assess the situation.
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  1. Imagine The Worst: It sounds counterproductive but sometimes imagining the worst-case scenario helps. If you can imagine the worst and figure out how to deal with it, it can take away some of the fear of all of the “what ifs?” in your life.
  1. Don’t Mask It: When we’re feeling constant fear and worry, it’s natural to turn to a quick fix. This may be smoking, drinking, taking drugs, etc. Though you may feel a short release from the problem, you’re only masking it. Your anxiety won’t go away. It will only come back again later and you’ll have additional problems to deal with. Masking is a common coping skill when it comes to any type of issue but it won’t be beneficial. When you enter a center for depression and anxiety treatment, you will be able to learn new coping skills to ease triggers and remove the ones like masking that were hindering you.
  1. Take Care Of Yourself: Find ways to take care of yourself. This could be doing something you really love or getting a massage. It could be as simple as taking time out to read a magazine. Whatever works for you, practice it often. Though it won’t necessarily resolve the problem, it will help you feel more at ease. Research has shown that meditation and yoga can also help anxiety.

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Identifying that you suffer from anxiety is the first step. Noticing and being aware of this is part of the process of feeling better. Though we can’t remove our fight or flight response, we can develop strategies to deal with the unwanted effects.

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Jul23

If The Shoe Fits – Mojo Moxy Edition

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If The Shoe Fits – Mojo Moxy Edition

Helloooo everyone and welcome to another edition of If The Shoe Fits – Mojo Moxy style!! My brother is getting married this Saturday so it only seemed right to write about the heels that I’ll be wearing for the big day! Take a look at some pics and then let’s discuss:

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^^^ Ugh. So in love!

My big bro got engaged a year ago and everyone was simply thrilled. A month or so after the engagement announcement an approximate date of when the wedding would be was told to my family. I kid you not, as soon as I found out that the wedding was a go I immediately began shopping for the perfect ensemble. Thanks to ModCloth I scored a gorgeous floral dress (as seen in the PicStitch photo) and my Mojo Moxy bootie heels. I ordered my outfit the day I found it and my dress and shoes have been waiting patiently in my closet for almost an entire year. I haven’t worn either of them and the anticipation to break out a brand new look is killing me! Waiting to wear the dress hasn’t been so hard but not wearing the shoes has been TORTURE! As soon as I get a new addition to my shoe collection I wear them ASAP. I honestly can’t believe the self control that I’ve had to not break these beauty booties out…And neither can my family and friends for that matter!

I wanted my look for the wedding to be unique but I didn’t want it to be an “everyone look at me” ensemble. My goal was to take a classic wedding staple like a floral dress and give it a modern spin. I think my purchases achieved this beautifully! What I love about the dress is that it’s a fresh take on a floral print because the colors are so rich as opposed to the usual pastels. In all honesty though, I was more concerned about the shoes than anything! I knew that my heels had to match my dress to the T to form a cohesive look so it was definitely a fashion life or death situation to find the winning pair!

When I order items off of ModCloth, I want it to be pieces that I know for a fact I won’t find anything similar to while I’m out shopping. A lot of the shoes I browsed through looked like things that I could find during a trip to the mall or Goodwill – until I laid eyes on my Mojo Moxys! I had never seen anything like these babies before and I had nothing that even came close to them in my personal collection. From the velvet laces to the tulip shape, I knew that these heels were “the one”. I’m sure the feelings that I have for these bad boys are very similar to how my brother feels for his fiance! The passionate yearning that I felt for these heels deep down in my loins was enough to make me stop my shoe search and place the order for the Mojo Moxys and my dress right then and there.

The week of waiting for my ModCloth delivery felt like an eternity…And then finally, my purchases arrived. I can’t even begin to tell you what it was like to open my ModCloth package to inspect the possible outfit that I would be wearing to my big brother’s wedding! Hello, anxiety! All I wanted was for the pieces to be perfect – is that so much to ask for? I ripped open the plastic to the dress and it was stunning! I pulled off the lid to the shoe box and…Navy blue?? DUN DUN DUNNNNNN!

“Navy blue,” I thought to myself frantically, “NAVY FUCKING BLUE?!” Clearly, I was somewhat freaking out – but I just couldn’t help it! The thing about these heels is that I thought they were black as I placed my order. I was banking on them being black so that they would match the base color of my dress. The color quality on the ModCloth picture was not that great, so it definitely came as a bit of a shock when I got to see my shoe babies in real life. I was so excited about these heels and it was kind of devastating to open the lid of the box and not see jet black…Deep breaths Sarah, deep breaths.

I cooled my overheated fashion engine and took a closer look at my purchases. As I looked over the dress again, I breathed a HUGE sigh of relief. Amongst all of the lovely flowers that adorn my dress, there happens to be some blooms that are NAVY FUCKING BLUE. I let out a squeal of delight, stripped off my clothes, and slipped my dress on. Then, I pulled out all of the paper stuffing the heels and put them on as well. I ran to the bathroom and squeezed my eyes shut before I took a look at the finished product in the mirror…And it was perfection. ❤

So there you have it, the dramatic saga of If The Shoe Fits – Mojo Moxy Edition. I hope all of you enjoyed reading this post just as much as I did writing it! So now I need your help…What shoes should I write about next? Your choices are between army green Guess summer heels, Vera Wang black lace up wedges, or Calico primary color kitten heels. I wanna hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah