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How Do You Connect With Your Parents?

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How Do You Connect With Your Parents?

When you’re a child, your parents are the center of your world. It’s difficult to imagine that you could one day not need to have them around anymore. However, as you grow older, your relationship evolves. You are not an inexperienced child anymore. You’re an adult. And with the realization that you can do everything you want by yourself comes another one: You don’t need your parents anymore. You can be sure that they are aware of it. As a result, a lot of adults struggle to maintain a sane and happy relationship with their parents. If this is something that you are having a hard time with, then try utilizing the tips below:

#1. Twin your hobbies

Hobbies are a great way to bond, so why not find something you both enjoy? Gardening is a great activity that you can both share without needing to be in the same place. You can discuss your plans for your respective gardens and exchange tips and tools. You could even share flowers by giving each other cuts from your favorite plants. If you don’t have a garden or don’t have the time or energy to manage your lawn and bushes, you can opt for a more relaxing approach. A zen garden is not only a tasteful addition to your interior decor, but it’s also a playful, meditative tool. You could compare designs and patterns, or even create a joint album on Facebook where you can both upload photos of your creations.

#2. Try something new together

New experiences are enriching. Your parents have watched you grow up, walk, and discover the world from the start. Reconnect with those feeling by choosing to try something new together. For instance, if you’ve never tried golf, you can take lessons together and rejoice in being the witness of each other’s discovery journey. You can find all of the equipment you need at a lower cost online – rock bottom golf is an excellent address for amateur golfers. If sports aren’t your thing, how about booking an escape room experience together? There’s nothing more rewarding than working together to beat the clock!

#3. You’re never too old to play games

Do you remember board game nights at home? Everyone has played Monopoly with their parents during the holiday. And, despite all of the frustrations that come with the game, it was fun to share a moment. When you play games, you connect at a deeper level. It goes beyond your age, life experience, or even social responsibilities. You are players all equal in the context of the game. If board games aren’t your cup of tea, video games are a fantastic choice. Over a quarter of gamers are 50+, meaning that age has never made any major difference. All you need is a gaming console that attaches to the TV, and you’re both ready to interact in the virtual world. With online platforms, you don’t even need to be in the same room!

#4. Booking a holiday together

If the idea of going on holiday with your parents is terrifying, you might want to give it a second thought. Most people find it challenging to survive a shared vacation. But you need to think beyond your family bond. The reason why most cross-generational holidays fail is that people revert to previous behavior patterns, namely your parents trying to care for you in the way they’re always used to and you, instinctively, react in the passive-aggressive way that you used to as a teenager. As a result, tensions occur. But, you can avoid this trap by treating your parents as friends, AKA equals. If you don’t give them the upper hand in the relationship, there is no reason for conflicts anymore.

#5. Plan regular catch-ups

Many adults complain that their parents are out of touch with their lives. Be honest, can you blame them? Do you give them the opportunity to know what is going on in your life? If you don’t organize regular catch-up dinners and casual meetings, they can never get to understand your hopes, passions, and struggles. Unless you share about yourself, people can’t stay updated about your journey.

#6. Group chat for everyone!

No time for a catch-up meal? Make the most of modern tools and create a group chat that keeps everyone in the loop. Family group chats can be frustrating at times. But, they’re the perfect tool to share little moments of your every day life, discuss big decisions, or merely check on how everyone is doing. By making your interactions more casual, you design a new relationship with your parents.

Adulthood can create distance between you and your parents. It’s never easy to change the base of a relationship. But, as you grow up and become independent, the foundation of your relationship naturally evolves. Don’t let it damage your bond. On the contrary, find new ways to get to know each other again.

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These Are My Confessions…

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These Are My Confessions…

Hiiiii everyone! I have to confess… after close to two months post break up with my most recent ex, I made a Tinder… and a Bumble, too. Lol, *Facepalm Emoji* But, damnit, I just couldn’t help it. All of my single lady friends encouraged me to make one, as they have one, as well, so I figured “why not”?

In a social media world, it can be difficult and even damn near impossible to meet someone the old fashioned way. And, for me, it feels even harder considering I am self employed. I have no coworkers and the people who I do work with have special needs so getting my flirt on while on the job is a NO, as I’m responsible for someone else at the time. It’s just not a good look.

At twenty-four, I’m over the going to the bar stage of my life. And, because my working week keeps me so busy, my weekends are normally spent recouping from that. So, how in the HECK do I meet someone?! Hence, I downloaded Tinder… and Bumble. -___-

I haven’t had a Tinder since I was nineteen and, I have to say, it is exactly what I remember it being. AKA, swiping through a bunch of pictures of guys holding up fish. Lolol, seriously! I’ve never seen so many fish pictures in my life. And, because I am anti-fishing, it’s always a no, no, no.

AND, if it’s not fish pictures, it’s pictures of a huge group of people. How am I supposed to figure out who you are if your profile picture is of your entire graduating college class?! No, no, no siree BOB. I thought that maybe Bumble would be a little different and I liked the idea that the girl had to contact the person who you matched with. But, it’s literally the exact same as Tinder.

In fact, I have seen so many of the same fish pictures on Bumble as I have on Tinder and I just can’t take it! Does anyone else notice this?! I feel like I’m taking crazy pills!! I’ll admit, that I have absolutely NO idea where I was going with this post, but I really felt like I needed to get all of that off of my chest, so thanks for listening! Lololol WOOF.

How do my single friends meet people? Who has had some success on any of the dating apps? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

Hiiii everyone and Happy Valentine’s Day! Unfortunately, I have no cute OOTD for this post, because I suffered from Canttakeagoodpicturetosavemylife-neosis. It’s a rare disorder when you look cute but just can’t seem to take a good picture to save your life, as the name clearly states. So, instead, I will just be wishing all of the love birds a very happy day celebrating their relationship. ❤

What will I be doing, you ask? Oh, nothing. Nothing at all. When you’re chronically single, Valentine’s Day is just another day and I will be working, working. I won’t even get to treat myself to a nice soak with a bath bomb from Lush, because I’ll be working late. But, hey, single on Valentine’s Day means that I won’t have to share my chocolate with anyone else, so here I am always looking on the bright side! 😀

No matter how you spend your day, in a relationship or not, just remember that Lil Red has love for all of her readers. And, at the end of the day, that’s the love that really matters. 😉

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How are you spending V-Day? What has been your favorite Valentine’s Day celebration? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Daily Dose Of Adorable

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Daily Dose Of Adorable

Hello! My parents are seriously one of the cutest couples on the planet, and they always seem to be doing something sweet for each other. Just this past week, for example, my dad brought home the gorgeous tulips seen below for my mom to bring a little spring to her step despite the insane snowfall our neck of the woods was hit with. He also used a Precious Moments advertisement in the Parade magazine to make the most precious thing I’ve ever seen. Check it out:

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Every year, my dad plans an amazing summer family vacation. And, after my mom had read several books set at charming beach locations, she decided that the sea was the place to be. Coincidentally, my dad was thinking the same thing after many trips to the mountainous North Carolina region. So, he chose Hilton Head for the very first Mushenheim family beach vacation.

Shortly after this decision was made, I saw the Precious Moments ad hanging on our refrigerator with some adjustments to it in my dad’s handwriting. It was basically the sweetest thing I’ve ever seen and I think my mom agrees, because it has been displayed ever since. This, on top of the lovely bouquet that my dad bought for her is more adorable than I can bear and, needless to say, my parents are definitely #relationshipgoals!

What is something sweet that your significant other has done for you? What are your #relationshipgoals? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

How To Make Your Wedding The Wedding Of The Year

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How To Make Your Wedding The Wedding Of The Year

Planning a wedding can be a very trying and stressful experience. There are a lot of things you are going to need to consider, and many things that can go wrong. It is important to make sure you have thought hard about the different elements of the wedding, ensuring everyone has one of the best and most memorable weddings ever. Here are just a few things to consider when planning your wedding:

Choose the Right Venue:

The most important part of the process when it comes to planning a wedding is to choose the right venue. There are so many things that have to happen in order to achieve a memorable day, but there is no doubt that the right venue is at the top of the list, as your day is going to be built around the location.

Get the Table Plan Sorted:

There are a lot of other things you are going to have to keep in mind, and one of the biggest is making sure that you get the table plan sorted. This is something that you need to focus on because it can make a big difference to the way people are able to interact, and can have a good bearing on the way they experience the day. The table plan will cause stress, and you might like to have a couple of goes at getting it as right as possible.

Photo Booth:

A photo booth is an absolute must for modern weddings – even if you do have a photographer. A photo booth is an excellent way of being able to get more unique photos, as well as group shots and couple photos, especially with costumes and props. Take a look at the different photo booth backdrops for sale that you could use for your wedding in order to enhance the photo booth experience.

Make Sure There’s Plenty of Food:

Another of the most essential aspects of a wedding is making sure there is plenty of food. You don’t want to risk your guests going hungry, and this is why it is important to sort out food for the meal, as well as possibly a buffet for later in the evening. Remember that it is better to have too much food than not enough, so this is something to keep in mind.

Planning a wedding can be a time consuming and difficult task, but the tips above will keep your big day running as smoothly as possible!

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Cute & Romantic Ideas For Celebrating Your Anniversary

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Cute & Romantic Ideas For Celebrating Your Anniversary

Whether it’s the anniversary of your first date, when your relationship began, or your wedding anniversary, it’s always nice to celebrate and mark the occasion, isn’t it? Of course, knowing how to celebrate in a romantic way isn’t always easy. However, if you’re smart about what you plan, you can organize the most amazing day ever for you and your partner. In need of some inspiration? Have a read of the tips and ideas below for marking your anniversary in the most best way:

Start the day right with breakfast in bed:

Treating your partner to breakfast in bed? Get creative and treat them to the perfect dish. You could opt to make a traditional breakfast, such as a fry up a sausage or bacon sandwich. Or, how about trying something a little different.

One way to do this is to cut the toast into hearts or you could even do pancakes and waffles in heart shapes with your partner’s favorite toppings. You can buy heart-shaped pancake pans and waffle irons or silicone molds to use to create these cute shaped breakfasts. You can also buy egg shapers for heart-shaped fried eggs to add a little extra sweetness to their favorite eggs on toast combo.

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Find that perfect card:

When finding a card for your partner, it doesn’t just have to be a standard happy anniversary card. You could try and find a card that represents your relationship with a picture or a joke that you can laugh about together.

If you are struggling to find one, then you could look to order it online on websites like Moonpig or Funky Pigeon where you can personalize the card with pictures of your relationship or something that represents your relationship. What’s great about these services, is the fact that you can also choose to have this sent to you blank so you can fill it in by hand which is more personal, or if you would prefer, you can just type your message in via the website.

Pick an amazing gift:

Choosing gifts for your partner can be difficult, so it is always best to think about what your partner likes and what their interests are, so that you can get an idea of the perfect present. During the time that you are together before your anniversary, look at the sort of things that they tend to treat themselves to and try to keep a mental note of this, so you know what sort of things you need to look out for.

You could also take inspiration from the internet. Places like Pinterest are great for gift ideas as you can search a general category and different boards that have been created will come up giving you all sorts of ideas and indications of what your partner may be into. If you have a general idea of what your partner likes, then searching the internet could be the inspiration you need. You can search for things like ‘gifts for music lovers’ or ‘gifts for fashion junkies’ which will give you plenty of options to choose from.

Plan an incredible day:

When it comes to the actual day itself, it is a day for both of you so you can book a surprise trip for your anniversary and give it early so that you have a lovely time away with your partner or it can be something you plan together. Some couples like to just have a nice day in watching movies, cooking, and enjoying each other’s company. This is fine, but if you know your partner would love to go out somewhere, then there are a lot of things you can consider planning.

When planning the day, think if there is anywhere they have always wanted to go or mentioned they enjoyed previously, or pick somewhere that is special to the both of you and your relationship.

Have a lovely evening:

After an exciting day out, the fun doesn’t have to end there. You can also plan to have a relaxing evening in together. When you get back, you could go out for a meal and drinks or go out to go bowling or to watch a movie. If you have had a long day and fancy an evening in, you can spend it watching a film with a takeaway meal and a drink or you could cook a delicious dish together.

Planning an anniversary can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be. With these hints and tips, you can have an amazing time with your partner, celebrating your relationship.

How To Throw The Ultimate Wedding For Your Guests

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How To Throw The Ultimate Wedding For Your Guests

Weddings are a two-way street, and not just between the bride and groom. They are a balance of your own personal enjoyment and that of your guests. For that reason, many couples aim to make their special day one of the largest parties possible.

Ensuring that everyone has a good time is easier said than done, though, especially with the number of guests in attendance. What your best friend since college and your parents find entertaining are vastly different, right? So, how can you keep your roughly 50 to 250 guests happy over the course of several hours?

Believe it or not, there are a few simple ways to make your big day an event to remember in the minds of your guests. Check out these top wedding and reception tips that are sure to make your event a smash hit:

Comfort Is Key:

Nothing ruins a fun time like being uncomfortable. Summer weddings are notorious for sweat inducing heat and annoying bugs, while winter celebrations are often more about fighting off the cold. It’s impossible to enjoy a cocktail or dessert bar in either situation, let alone trying to deal with those uncomfortable conditions for hours on end.

Consider the conditions your guests will be subject to, then plan accordingly. If heat is the issue, you might want to serve ice cold glasses of lemonade. If the cold will be a concern, then hot chocolate might be in order. Picking the right bridesmaids dresses for either occasion is another essential factor. You can check here for summer and winter designs.

Other considerations could be a basket of flip flops near the dance floor for tired feet, mints in the restrooms, or a sewing kit handy for emergencies. Anything to make their time more comfortable goes a long way for your guests.

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Avoid Stagnation:

Sitting around waiting for the next part of the main event can quickly kill the mood, not to mention highlight those uncomfortable factors mentioned above. Work with your planner to make sure that things happen in a timely fashion, to keep the day moving along. That includes the ceremony, meals, dancing, and when the bar opens.

The Dance Floor:

Speaking of dancing, the idea is to get everyone on the dance floor ASAP. Take your time during your ceremony, but move things along quickly from there. Make sure everyone is fed and has a few drinks in them, then have your first dance and open up the floor.

The Food:

Quality food is great, but the key to happy guests outside of alcohol is having enough food for everyone. Outside of the main courses, you’ll want to have some sort of catering that allows guests to grab something to eat as they’re walking around.

Since neither food nor alcohol are cheap, many couples have turned to crowdfunding to help foot the bill. While most sites market themselves with a slogan like, “We will help your ideal honeymoon happen,” they’re also a great place to help pay for some of your wedding expenses.

Having guests chip in on the costs of both weddings and honeymoons in lieu of a gift is an excellent way to make them events to remember. While the idea might sound strange from a traditional standpoint, it happens to be trending in the wedding world.

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Everyone wants their big day to be something guests will remember for years to come. By following the advice above, you can do just that. These few key factors are all it takes to wow your guests and throw the wedding of your dreams.