Lil Red’s Book Club: Deviant By Harold Schechter Edition

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Lil Red’s Book Club: Deviant By Harold Schechter Edition

Hello everyone and welcome to a brand new edition of Lil Red’s Book Club! Today’s book club review is going to be a bit different from the norm as we are discussing a book very outside the norm. That being the biography of Ed Gein called Deviant written by Harold Schechter. This is going to be a spoiler free setting, as always, because we are not going to be getting into the nitty gritty of this book. Rather, I just have a few thoughts on it especially with the recent hype of the Ryan Murphy Monster series. It goes without saying that a big fat trigger warning will be placed on Deviant for highly disturbing and highly upsetting content. Be warned if you choose to read it for yourself! Now, let’s get to it:

My Johnny works in a cozy corner and listens to historical or true crime podcasts and audio books throughout the day. A while back ago he listened to Deviant and recommended it. For good reason too as it is easily one of the most excellent true crime books I have read. But more on that later! We decided to give the Ryan Murphy Monster series that focused on Ed Gein a go. Yes, we expected some fabrications but went into it with the mindset of we are watching a show – not a true story. At first, at least.

From the jump of Monster, Johnny immediately began pointing out the complete and utter lack of truth to the series. I was more focused on the acting as it was very good. However, there came a point when we just couldn’t do it anymore. This show was such a massive far cry from the truth of the matter at hand and playing it off as the real deal. Monster was, as to be expected, absolutely disgusting to watch. So much so that we refused to finish it. Yes, Ed Gein’s story is disgusting. There is no denying that. But, the falsities included made it even more so as it was strictly there to disgust. It felt completely gratuitous because countless scenes did not need to be included and was painting a picture of deviancy that Gein never participated in. (If you know some of the scenes I’m talking about, you know!) These additions were so flagrantly wrong that Gein’s biographer, Harold Schechter, ended up speaking out.

After our extremely lackluster viewing of a handful of episodes, Johnny bought Deviant for me so I could read it for myself. Throughout the show, I was shushing Johnny but after reading the book I can definitely see where he was coming from! In fact, he should have been shushing me lol. If you found yourself feeling similarly to us, you must read Deviant because this is exactly what the show should have been. It was unputdownable and I finished it in two sittings!

Deviant was so expertly written by Schechter that it almost felt like you were reading it from the perspective of someone looking through the window of the Gein home. This book was fact driven and never once attempted to sensationalize the situation. Only to tell the story based in truth. Schechter presented stone cold facts through first person accounts, newspaper articles and television soundbites, autopsy reports, physical and psychiatric reports, police reports, court proceedings, historical comparisons, obituaries, and photographs. If you want to know about “the original Psycho”, it starts and ends with Deviant.

Obviously, there was SO much that was hard to read in this book and I must warn you again. But, if you decide to dive in, you will find yourself feeling like me. As I flipped the pages, I literally felt like I was a resident of Plainfield. A fly on the wall watching as the story unfolded and I simply couldn’t stop reading. Of course, there is a lot to unpack from this book but the fact remains that these are the facts. This story was sensational without every single pointless shocker that Ryan Murphy carelessly threw into Monster. If you are a true crime aficionado, then you will be hard pressed to find anything that beats Deviant.

Overall, I am going to award Deviant with a ten out of ten stars. That’s not to say I enjoyed the content in this book. It’s to say that I appreciated the amazing writing and dedication to the facts!

What did you think of the Ed Gein Monster series? Do you like learning about true crime? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

New Cherry On Top Earrings

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New Cherry On Top Earrings

Hello! Every Tuesday I get an hour and a half break before my last shift of the day. I use that time to write, read, or do blog jobs. And, oh yeah, I go shopping too! There is a TJMaxx right by the job site I am at and I have been frequenting it as I plug away at my holiday shopping. I am pleased to report that I am almost done and can’t wait to finish up, wrap them up, and cozy up for the rest of the holiday season. Of course, it’s extremely hard to visit TJMaxx without looking a little bit for myself too! During my last shopping trip, I ended up with a ten dollar treat and I couldn’t believe my good fortune. I have wanted something like this for forever! Check it out:

When I saw these darling cherry earrings I literally gasped. I have always thought that a pair of dangly cherry earrings would be so retro and fun. They were never a must have but a nice to have and the pair I found at TJMaxx was even better than what I had in mind. These good enough to eat earrings detach at the top of the cherry so you have to put the stem through the ear and then put them back together again. I thought this was way cool and unique and I absolutely love the deep red, shiny cherries. They are the ultimate in fairycore chic!

There was no brand listed on the packaging of my new earrings so I decided to look them up. Once again, I couldn’t believe my good fortune because these are actually from Anthropologie! The price listed on their website is forty-four dollars and I got mine for ten. You just can’t beat that! Anthropologie is a brand that I have always coveted and I got an accessory from there that I have been dreaming of for a song. Lady Luck continued to smile on me because there are three colors of the cherries to pick from at Anthropologie and I found the deep red. The brighter hued options on their website didn’t speak to me whatsoever. This find was as sweet as cherry pie! 😀

As always, huge ups to TJMaxx for providing me with the things I want and the things that I didn’t know I needed. Forever my happy place! ❤

Is there a fashion item you have been coveting? Where is your happy place to shop? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Mix & Match OOTD

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Mix & Match OOTD

Hello everyone and welcome to a brand new OOTD here on lifewithlilred! This past weekend my brother, Johnny, and I attended Akron Comicon and it was so much fun! It is our tradition to go every year together and we always look forward to geeking out in the crowd of fandom fans. At an event like Comicon, anything goes for fashion and I decided I wanted to go quirky cool with my OOTD. One of my favorite ways to make an outfit chic and unique is by mixing and matching patterns that, at a glance, might not necessarily go together. I was actually ambivalent about this look but it came together perfectly and I absolutely love how it turned out! Take a look and let’s discuss:

Blazer: Scotch & Soda, TJMaxx

Button Down: Karl Lagerfeld, TJMaxx

Coated Skinny Jeans: Seven Jeans, TJMaxx

Platform Boots: Dolls Kill

Purse: Foley + Corinna, TJMaxx

The earrings are from Target I think!

As I went shopping in my wardrobe department store, I had blazers on the mind and began this OOTD by browsing my options. I had been so focused on cold weather jackets that I haven’t been thinking blazers at all and honestly had forgotten about my Scotch & Soda one! Shame on me because this pajama style blazer is SO fabulous. I am totally there for that relaxed fit and the floral pattern with colors that just scream fall. This little number was definitely the move but what to pair it with?

The last thing I wanted for Comicon was a basic look so simply wearing my blazer over top a black sweater just wouldn’t do. As the vast majority of my clothing features some type of pattern or bold color, I knew I would have to get creative with mixing and matching patterns. To get started, I took a closer look at the colors in the blazer which had black as well as some lighter hues that were close enough to white. Remember, if you are mixing and matching patterns that the best way to form cohesion is by using like colors in the two pieces you are pairing.

After my double check of the blazer, I knew black and white would be the best way to go and selected my button down by Karl Lagerfeld. This top features a stark white background with classic Karl aviators in black. Initially, I thought this top was too far a cry from the blazer but put both on with a pair of high waisted skinnies anyway to see the final effect. And you know what? It worked! Between the high rise of the Seven Jeans and the coverage from the blazer, the button down didn’t look out of place as it was being overshadowed. The end result provided this really cool pop of bright white among the burnt fall hues of the blazer and it was just the quirky cool flare I was hoping for.

Finally, it was onto shoes and accessories. I wanted long legs and height to extenuate the high rise skinnies and went for a daring pair of platform boots with a vertebrae heel. They were a hit at Comicon and I liked how the color of the vertebrae accents closely mimicked some of the lighter hues in the blazer. For earrings, I chose a gorgeous pair of dangly turquoise crosses for a surprise color burst. I love turquoise and orange paired together and these looked lovely with the blazer. Last but not least, I swapped out my purse I was using to a fully neutral one by Foley + Corinna with spikes and a chain strap. With that, I was ready to go get my nerd on!

This Mix & Match OOTD was SO fun to style despite initial uncertainty. Fashion is about taking risks and sometimes they work and other times they don’t. This was a fashion risk that definitely paid off!

Is there an event you go to yearly? What is something you are looking forward to? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Best Husband Ever!

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Best Husband Ever!

Hello! My darling husband, Johnny, really is a blog husband to the T. He has been taking OOTD pictures (And now TikTok videos!) since our second date over six years ago. Every single shot you have seen on lifewithlilred is compliments of him and words can’t even describe how appreciative I am for it! When the weekend rolls around we shoot one or two outfits and it takes well under ten minutes to do so. Although the sessions are speedy, Johnny always does his running joke… He will him and haw under his breath, say something along the lines of “oh my god”, and proceed to be my photographer while grinning at his cleverness. It has been this way for forever and I could not picture our shoots without him going through his little routine!

Although he puts on his hilarious act, I know so very well how proud Johnny is of me. 1) He tells me so all the time. And 2) He tells literally everyone. This past weekend we had one of our best friends, Cliff, over to watch the Rock Hall induction ceremony. I went to bed after an hour or so and as soon as I went upstairs, I could hear Johnny telling Cliff a story about me. I recognized it immediately as when Spinal Tap shared my OOTD video on TikTok from when we had our date night to see the sequel. Johnny claims that this is the coolest thing that has ever happened and I have to agree! Since that share, Johnny has made it a point to tell every single one of our friends when we see them and it makes me so unbelievably happy. ❤

My Johnny isn’t just a blog husband because he helps me with my content. He is a blog husband because he talks it up every chance he can get. It’s actually really funny because Johnny doesn’t read my blog as he is already living it lol. Despite that, he hypes it up so much and that is true love! He verbalizes and puts into action his pride in my side profession and it means the world. Johnny will even give me suggestions for posts and outfits that I hadn’t thought of and I love that lifewithlilred has given us both a space to be creative.

Johnny’s work hosted a Halloween costume contest and when we both returned home he dove right into a story about it. A group of his coworkers asked him to take a picture and he shifted into blog photographer mode. Thanks to my teachings, he knows how to work angles baby and his coworkers couldn’t believe how well the pictures turned out. He told them it was all because of me and his weekend photography gig. I have a feeling he is going to be the go to guy to snap pics at the next work function!

I am the luckiest girl in the world and Johnny’s help on my blog makes me feel so special. He makes me feel so special and I just love my main squeeze! ❤

Does anyone help you with your blog or social media? What do you appreciate about your partner? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Pajama Party OOTD Bloopers

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Pajama Party OOTD Bloopers

Hello everyone and welcome to the Blooper Reel from my Pajama Party OOTD! I don’t know about all of you, but the best part of my day has to be when I get home from work. This is not to say that I don’t love my job but because I love the feeling of putting on pajamas as soon as I barrel through the doorway and set my purse down. There is just nothing better than slipping into something comfy, winding down, and binge watching whatever Johnny and I fancy. It’s heavenly! These pics? Not so much lol. Check it out:

Sundays in my household are strictly Lazy Sundays. Johnny and I hang out downstairs with the bunnies, he’ll go upstairs to nap, I watch whatever I want on TV, then I’ll head up mid afternoon. This past Sunday, I was on a Sandra Bullock kick as I recently read Bird Box and watched the movie. Johnny was still asleep when I got upstairs so I decided to put on one of my favorite chick flicks – The Proposal. It is just SO funny and cute and I put it on whenever I need a laugh or background noise. Due to my laughter, Johnny woke up about ten minutes later and watched the rest of the movie with me. He LOVED it and we have been quoting it all week. 😀

After The Proposal, I couldn’t believe Johnny’s movie choice… One of my OTHER favorite chick flicks: 13 Going On Thirty!! This is a movie that I quote constantly and one that Johnny has declined watching with me until now. The joke is on him because he ended up LOVING it too! Curling up in these cozy pajamas and watching chick flicks together was honestly like having a midday slumber party. We were giggling like schoolgirls at every little thing and delighting in seeing all of my most quotable parts. Next on the agenda? I see The Devil Wears Prada and What A Girl Wants in our future! ❤

Sandra Bullock and Jennifer Garner in one afternoon? Be still my heart! It took over six years for Johnny to hop on the chick flick train and now that he’s onboard, I refuse to let him leave anytime soon! 😀

What is your favorite chick flick? Who is your favorite actor or actress? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

New Blu Pepper Dress

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New Blu Pepper Dress

Hello! A few weeks ago I went on a fabulous TJMaxx shopping trip with my mom. Hitting up our favorite store together is one of my favorite things to do. Of course, I love a solo shopping adventure but it’s SO much better with my mom. ❤ We were on the hunt for birthday and Christmas prezzies and, of course, I couldn’t resist taking a look at the clothes too! I’m glad I did because I found the absolute perfect dress to wear for Thanksgiving. I think it’s going to be great for showing out then sitting down and eating lol. Take a look:

This Blu Pepper frock was bought for a song at fifteen dollars and I just can’t get enough of it. That rich caramel color, those sweet as can be polka dots, and a darling A-line skirt to twirl in. This dress looks like it belongs to a doll and, as I am one, it had to come home with me! As an early twenty something, I adored shopping at Urban Outfitters and my new dress reminds me so much of the duds from there. Just way less expensive and even more adorable! In fact, I’m pretty sure UO carried the Blu Pepper brand at one point or another which made both my younger and thirty something year old self swoon!

I cannot wait to play around with styling this dress and my Thanksgiving fit came to me in a vision. I’m thinking cable knit grey tights, a cream colored cardi, and my heeled oxfords. Talk about a collegiate chic OOTD! This dress would also look amazing with a sleek black blazer which I definitely plan on rocking too! As I was scrolling through Facebook, I caught a glimpse of my cousin’s story and was delighted to see that she had on the exact same dress. What can I say, my family has great taste and I think we both wore it best. 😀

I have been fantasizing about Thanksgiving since last Thanksgiving and will be eagerly awaiting filling up my plate while sporting this little beauty!

What is your favorite Thanksgiving dish? Do you have your outfit picked out already? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

Lil Red’s Book Club: Malorie By Josh Malerman Edition

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Lil Red’s Book Club: Malorie By Josh Malerman Edition

Hello everyone and welcome to a brand new edition of Lil Red’s Book Club! In a spoiler free setting, as always, we are going to be discussing the sequel to Bird Box by Josh Malerman called Malorie. I have been on a HUGE Malerman kick as of late and have been devouring his horror novels in a day. They are so good that once I start I simply can’t stop! After reading Bird Box, I watched the movie which was alright and eagerly awaited for Malorie to arrive at the library. As soon as I read the first page, I knew exactly what I was doing for the rest of my day! Before we begin our discussion, I will be placing a trigger warning on Malorie for graphic violence, disturbing content, and child abuse. Now, let’s get to it:

Malorie begins essentially where Bird Box left off. She and her children, Tom and Olympia, made the terrifying blind journey by rowboat to the Jane Tucker School For The Blind. Despite being in a safe space, Malorie insists on “living by the fold”. Meaning that even if they are in an enclosed area with everything they could ever need, her and her children will continue to do so blindly. Malorie’s constant mantra to herself is “don’t get lazy” and that is a good thing as they will soon have to flee and find home elsewhere.

Fast forward ten years later and Malorie, Tom, and Olympia’s home is an old summer camp. Her children are now teenagers and the family has the entire run of the camp and an excellent supply of food and water. In their semblance of a life, Olympia chooses to read everything in the camp’s library. Tom, on the other hand, spends his time inventing tools to allow them to be outside safely even if creatures are there. Creatures that turn you mad with one look – so insane that you will hurt anyone in your way and yourself. As the years go by, Malorie grows increasingly paranoid and takes it out on her children. The brunt falls on Tom who wants to explore the world desperately and without the constant fear that his mother instills in him and his sister.

Then, opportunity comes knocking. Quite literally. A man knocks on the family’s cabin door claiming that he is with the census. He is finding survivors and collecting information about how they have withstood the worldwide takeover of the creatures. To Tom’s delight, the man leaves his literature on the porch and his wildest dreams come true. There is a town called Indian River that is filled with progressive thinkers. People who claim to have caught a creature, people who are trying to invent tools every day and improve the lives that everyone has been subjected to.

Tom is not the only one to learn something new from the papers the census taker left. On the list of survivors, Malorie is shocked to see the names of people she believed to be dead. The route to find them is just a thirty mile walk and a blind train trip away. The family leaves immediately to catch the train, knowing that they are putting themselves in imminent danger. Creatures are lurking everywhere as are ghosts of the past. Will their trip be fruitful? Or will man continue to be the scariest creature of all? Read Malorie to find out!

The reviews I read for Malorie were lackluster at best and I completely disagree. I liked it just as much as Bird Box (Which received my coveted ten star rating), if not more. After reading Bird Box, I wanted to know more about this crazy world that Josh Malerman created and that is exactly what I got. I got a novel that told the tale of teens becoming adults, the titular character becoming someone new, and a world that is on the verge of collapse evolving as the years go by. Malorie is told from the perspective of Tom and Olympia as well as their mother but make no mistake. Although it is family focused, this book is dripping with horror and uncertainty with every turn of the page.

The book being told from the children’s point of view too filled me with such a sense of protection for them as I read. There is gentle Olympia who harbors secrets and fills her head with other people’s stories. Tom is the polar opposite. He wears his heart plainly and is steadfast in his desire to change the world. To see the world no matter what his mom says. This could lead to salvation or his untimely demise but it is a reminder that no reward will come from no risk. A reminder that Malorie will need when she takes her children on what she hopes to be their final trip to a safe home.

Like Bird Box, I am going to award Malorie with a ten out of ten stars. This was the perfect follow up to Bird Box and I really hope they make a movie of it!!

What are you currently reading? Who is your favorite horror author? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

How To Increase Your Body Confidence This Year

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How To Increase Your Body Confidence This Year

Feeling confident in your own skin is something that we all deserve to experience, yet so many of us don’t. If you know that you’d really like to take control of your body confidence this year, it’s time to do something about it! Here’s how to get started:

When you’re done with feeling down and you know you want to feel more confident, the best way to start is by making sure that you’re kind to yourself. It’s counterintuitive to want to feel more confident, yet constantly be self-deprecating. When you aim to make a big change in life, it can feel overwhelming, and you can resist it. Start off small, be kind to yourself mentally and physically, and let yourself embrace the change as it comes.

The next thing for you to focus on is movement. This isn’t to change your body type unless it’s something that you want to do. The whole idea here is that exercise is going to bring you endorphins, and they’re going to make you feel good. Alongside that, as you start to gain more energy and you build more muscle in your body, it’s going to make you feel much more confident in your own skin. What’s not to love about that?

If you do have insecurities, it’s important to make sure that you’re tackling them rather than letting yourself worry about parts of your body that you don’t like. Looking to change them or transform them can make a difference. For example, if you’ve spent years trying to lose stubborn belly fat and it’s not shifting, opting for a tummy tuck could be the perfect thing for you. Turning to surgery used to be such a taboo topic but there is absolutely no shame in it. You can learn to love your insecurities, but sometimes changing them is exactly what you need. If you are opting for surgery, more power to you! Just be sure you are going to an excellent surgeon that comes highly recommended with completely satisfied patients. To begin researching a good fit for you, simply enter a search for “Plastic Surgeon in Brentwood, Los Angeles” (or your local area). You might want to schedule a few different consultations so you can find the surgeon that you are most comfortable working with.

One really easy trick to make sure that you feel more body confident is to make sure that you’re dressing for your body shape. It’s easy to look at the different trends and want to adopt them, but if they don’t work for your figure, you may not feel good. Instead, when you focus on wearing clothes that work with your body shape and make you feel more confident, it’s going to really impact how you feel on a daily basis.

Ultimately, it’s all about empowering yourself. This is something that you need to curate and you need to drive. When you feel more empowered, you naturally feel more confident. It’s not just about working on the way that you look, it’s working on your mind too. Adopting a more positive, self-supportive, and encouraging mindset is the best gift you can give yourself. When you start to speak to yourself better and treat yourself better, you’ll feel a lot more empowered. Empowerment is a state of being that can create more confidence, and it is exactly what you need this year.

Boosting your confidence is all about talking the talk and walking the walk too. Set small goals to start with and you will keep feeling better and better!

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Pajama Party OOTD

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Pajama Party OOTD

Hello! I am an avid fan of 5 Below and love stopping in for a cheap lil treat for myself. One of my favorite things to purchase from 5B has got to be pajamas. I have always loved the idea of cute and cozy PJs to cuddle up in but much prefer to spend my moolah on regular wear clothing instead. Oh and shoes… Lots of shoes! The spooky pajamas I bought during October from 5 Below costed less than fifteen dollars and ignited a PJ passion. So much so that I absolutely couldn’t resist this holiday pair a few weeks ago. Check it out:

Peppermint Stripe Pajamas: 5 Below

I fell in love with these peppermint stripe PJs as soon as I locked eyes on them and they just had to come home with me. An adorable set for just fifteen bucks? I can swing that! These pajamas are SO soft and snuggly and I genuinely don’t want to take them off when I wake up in the morning. They are nice and light which is a huge plus because I sleep with ALL of the blankets in our apartment as the weather cools down. My 5 Below set reminds me so much of Victoria’s Secret PJs and it’s oh so sweet to get them for a fraction of the cost. 😀

If you are on the hunt for some fun holiday PJs, RUN don’t walk to 5 Below… Because I just might buy them all lol. They have countless patterns available including Highland Cows, ornaments, woodland animals, Peanuts, Christmas trees, and classic plaids to name a few. These are the perfect jammie jams to gift to yourself or the people you need to shop for for the holidays. I am completely blown away by the quality of my pajamas despite their budget price and they are definitely something you can feel comfortable gifting with. Highly recommend!

If you, too, love the idea of pajamas more than actually buying them then 5 Below is the place to be. I have a sneaking suspicion that I will be buying at least a few more pairs before the holiday season is out!

What do you like to wear to bed? What is your favorite thing to lounge in? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

New Grape & Deep Purple Nails

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New Grape & Deep Purple Nails

Hello! I treated myself to a fabulous fill this past Tuesday and it was so nice to spend an hour getting pampered while I was on break. I have to admit that I was a bit sad to say goodbye to my Halloween nails to compliment my pirate costume but I was excited to explore new colors for fall. Come fall time, I feel like I see endless shades of brown and nude nail polishes and that is not me in the slightest. I adore the gem tones when it comes to fall hues and wanted to go that route for a fresh take on a fall fill. One of the colors was actually not what I had in mind but I loved how it turned out anyways. Talk about a happy accident! Check it out:

As I browsed through the nail polish book, I immediately was drawn to the grape color and moved onto my next shade. Nearby was a deep indigo (Or so I thought!) and that was the winner. When I requested the colors to my tech, she came back verifying that I chose two purples and in my head I was like “huh” lol. What I took as indigo was a really deep purple! I didn’t want to bother with swapping it out and just decided to go for it and I’m so glad I did. My tech and I were swooning over this color combo once all was said and done and she thought it looked “Victorian”. I couldn’t agree more and it was just the Lil Red take on fall colors I was hoping for despite the mix up!

My time spent at Elysian Nails can’t be beat and I recommend the salon to any and everyone. This includes my mom, mother in law, friends, and anyone looking for recommendations on Talk Of The Town pages on Facebook. Earlier in the day, I scheduled my next fill for myself in December as well as a manicure for my mom. Literally thirty seconds after I scheduled my mom’s mani, I got a text from the salon owner asking who it was for lol. He knew darn well I will never be without my acrylics and when I arrived at the salon, we shared a laugh and he said “It could never be you”! That just shows the level of service Elysian Nails provides. Everyone from the owner to the techs knows the clients and I really appreciated that he went out of his way to double check. ❤

I am already chomping at the bit for my next fill and can’t wait to take my mom to her mani appointment – not mine!!!

How do you like to treat yourself? What color of nail polish are you rocking? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah