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Combating The Loneliness When Living Alone

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Combating The Loneliness When Living Alone

When you are younger, you are likely to be living with at least one person, a parent or guardian. But for many people families come in all shapes and sizes and when the time comes to get a place of your own, it can often feel very isolating and overwhelming. You may be wondering if there is anything that you can do to combat the loneliness that you feel, so here are some suggestions to consider:

Get a roommate:

One of the obvious things that you can do when you live alone, and you have the space for it, is to get yourself a roommate. Initially, the idea of living on your own may have been very appealing, but perhaps a companion or a friend who is there when you get home from work or on the weekends will make you feel better. A roommate could be someone you already know, or you can advertise the room you have for rent. This can also be a big help when it comes to your outgoings, so there could be more benefits than one to consider here.

Plan your days and nights:

It’s essential that you start to think about your days and your nights when it comes to living alone, and if you plan for them, then you are less likely to feel alone and at a loss of what to do with your time. Routine workouts at the gym or going for a run, head out for walks, schedule in TV programs you want to watch, go out to dinner with friends. Make sure you have a full schedule and routine that you can throw yourself into. It leaves you with less time to comprehend that you are on your own as the chances are when you are home, you are tired and will just want to relax or go to bed.

Get a cat:

A cat can be extremely loyal and a great pet to have in your home. It gives you a purpose, a sense of responsibility, and something to greet you when you get home. Ensuring they have what they need for when you aren’t around like a cat bed, litter tray, food, water and even a realistic cat toy can make them feel happy and content for the time that you spend away from your place. It could definitely be an option to consider.

Other pets to consider:

Further to that, there are other pets you could think about as well that could provide you with the same level of company, but tend to be very low maintenance. Hamsters and gerbils, and even a fish tank. It all depends on the type of pets you like. Another note could be that you could volunteer at your local animal shelter. Walking the dogs and spending time with the animals could leave you feeling content and happy, and fill up any spare time you did have.

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Start a new hobby:

If you have some free time and you don’t want to feel alone or bored, then maybe it is the perfect time to start a new hobby. Has there been a sports team that you have wanted to join? Do you want to attend a gym class? Maybe you want to be creative so getting artsy or even starting a blog of your own. These are all great things that you could consider doing in your spare time to give yourself a full day.

Get engrossed in the latest box set:

A great idea is to get yourself engrossed in a box set when you have some free time. There are so many amazing TV, film, or drama series that you can watch. Game Of Thrones, Suits, and Netflix are always releasing something new. While it may sound a little strange just watching TV when you feel alone, the box sets and the programs you watch will have you mesmerized and transfixed. Before you realize it you will have devoured three episodes and wondered where the time has gone.

Take it in turns with your friends to host dinner parties:

There are likely to be other friends of yours that also live on their own, so it may be time to join forces. Take it in turns to host nights in. It could be a lavish dinner party, it might just be pizza and a few drinks, but it means that you are able to spend some time together and enjoy each other’s company without feeling like you are on your own.

We hope that this post has helped you take some of the potential loneliness out of living alone. Good luck!

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I’m NOT Lonely

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I’m NOT Lonely

Hi everyone and happy Sunday! So, I’m not sure if those of you who aren’t my friends on Facebook are aware but my year and a half long relationship ended (by me) a few months ago. And, believe me, I’m fine. Even if I wasn’t the one doing the dumping, I think that I would be fine. But, the absence of someone who you used to talk to every day for the past year and a half is a little bit difficult to deal with.

I was having this conversation over drinks with my sister last night and I swear, I must have emphasized to her that “I’m NOT Lonely” at least five times. Because I’m not. Really. However, a void has definitely now been made in my life from the time that I used to spend hanging out with and talking to my former significant other. It’s not a feeling of loneliness but I’m more left with the feeling of “what do I do now?”.

It’s just freaking annoying. Like, when you have a boy or girlfriend, you have a built in social life from it. Dinners, movies, drinks, or just simply hanging out. But, once the break up happens, you are left to your own devices. I guess this wouldn’t be a problem if I had a buttload of friends but, in all reality, I have like three people that doesn’t include my sister that I like to spend time with.

It’s weird, because everyone thinks I’m this little social butterfly – but I’m so not. I’m actually quite shy when it comes to new people. I’m not the girl who’s going to go strike up a conversation with a stranger and I’m definitely not the girl who’s good at making friends. So, that kind of leaves me floundering around trying to figure out what to do next.

The way I’m feeling right now is really conflicting because I am totally content with my social life. I am able to see my girlfriends at least weekly, which is super nice. I love going to the bar, the mall, movies, or whatever with them and we always end up having a lot of fun. So why do I all of a sudden feel like I need a brand new friend group? After typing this out, I guess I am trying to “fill the void”, so to speak. It seems that now, it’s more of a matter of finding productive things to do to help use up some of this newly gained free time. Blogging, planning my Europe travels, et cetera.

Wow. Okay. Good one sided talk, everyone! Glad we had it. So, to emphasize again, I’M NOT LONELY:

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Lolol, JK. I just need to focus on doing some things that make me happy rather than focusing on such an apparent loss of someone’s company. Yeah? Yeah. How have you dealt with the post break up void? Has anyone ever felt similarly to what was described in this post? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah