I’m NOT Lonely

I’m NOT Lonely

Hi everyone and happy Sunday! So, I’m not sure if those of you who aren’t my friends on Facebook are aware but my year and a half long relationship ended (by me) a few months ago. And, believe me, I’m fine. Even if I wasn’t the one doing the dumping, I think that I would be fine. But, the absence of someone who you used to talk to every day for the past year and a half is a little bit difficult to deal with.

I was having this conversation over drinks with my sister last night and I swear, I must have emphasized to her that “I’m NOT Lonely” at least five times. Because I’m not. Really. However, a void has definitely now been made in my life from the time that I used to spend hanging out with and talking to my former significant other. It’s not a feeling of loneliness but I’m more left with the feeling of “what do I do now?”.

It’s just freaking annoying. Like, when you have a boy or girlfriend, you have a built in social life from it. Dinners, movies, drinks, or just simply hanging out. But, once the break up happens, you are left to your own devices. I guess this wouldn’t be a problem if I had a buttload of friends but, in all reality, I have like three people that doesn’t include my sister that I like to spend time with.

It’s weird, because everyone thinks I’m this little social butterfly – but I’m so not. I’m actually quite shy when it comes to new people. I’m not the girl who’s going to go strike up a conversation with a stranger and I’m definitely not the girl who’s good at making friends. So, that kind of leaves me floundering around trying to figure out what to do next.

The way I’m feeling right now is really conflicting because I am totally content with my social life. I am able to see my girlfriends at least weekly, which is super nice. I love going to the bar, the mall, movies, or whatever with them and we always end up having a lot of fun. So why do I all of a sudden feel like I need a brand new friend group? After typing this out, I guess I am trying to “fill the void”, so to speak. It seems that now, it’s more of a matter of finding productive things to do to help use up some of this newly gained free time. Blogging, planning my Europe travels, et cetera.

Wow. Okay. Good one sided talk, everyone! Glad we had it. So, to emphasize again, I’M NOT LONELY:


Lolol, JK. I just need to focus on doing some things that make me happy rather than focusing on such an apparent loss of someone’s company. Yeah? Yeah. How have you dealt with the post break up void? Has anyone ever felt similarly to what was described in this post? I want to hear from all of you, so leave me a comment and let’s chat! Much love. -Sarah

19 responses »

  1. Aww I understand how you feel sweetie. I’ve dealt with loneliness and am not a social butterfly like I used to be. Sometimes I am but not a lot. But you’re definitely not lonely cause you have family and friends that love you like me!!!!! I adore you. ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•


  2. I’ve definitely been there and it’s exactly as you’ve said with finding something to fill the void. I took up photography and kayaking. Just one day, out of the blue, I bought a kayak. Both led me to so many beautiful places that I didn’t have time to think about the loss of company. And yes, just because you’re alone does not mean you’re lonely. ๐Ÿ™‚
    I hope something comes along soon to fill that void.


  3. I felt the exact same thing girl! You have all that extra time now you used to spend with your boyfriend.. I am also not a social butterfly so at first i felt like i was lonely ๐Ÿ˜… But after a while you start finding new things to do and to me that was the perfect way to make new friends and fill in the gap. You’ll get through this babe ๐Ÿ’‹


  4. Aaw it’s weird when you first breakup with someone, as you get used to spending time going out with them and share things with them. After a while you get used to having more me time and enjoy itโ˜บ x


  5. Hugs. I think it is completely natural to feel this way not just with relationships but also when different Monumental projects or phases (which relationships would fall into) end like school or even a change in job and you no longer see certian people. Redirecting that energy is the best advice. It will also lead you to expand your group if you venture into something else…like mountain lion taming๐Ÿ˜ Hugs. Can not wait to hear about your Europe adventures๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป


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